My boyfriend and I have a wonderful playful and exciting sex life. Now before I say anything I just want to let everyone know the sex is really really good. I have no complaints except one... he wants sex all the time. I mean ALL the time.2 or 3 times a day... 20 minutes or more each time! The sex is good but come on now... I get sore after awhile. Sometimes I just don't want it. And when I say I don't want it right now he gets all hurt and thinks I don't want him. I don't like to see him like that. So my question is... what can I do to keep him satisfied? Is there and product out there to minimize vaginal soreness during sex? Is it normal for him to want sex so much? He's 21 and I am 20.

Seems that you all really need to talk about this...sit him down and tell him sex is Awesome! and that you Love it, but having sex several times a day is painful... and you will do it as much as you can... because you'd Like to do it 24- 7...but that would really hurt!

It's a guy-thing to be hurt and think you don't want him when you say not right now. That's a common reaction what he's going through. Have you tried lubes? Even though they do "wear-out" during sex if there's too much friction it'll help a little; it may cause a little burning for you though due to the soreness. The other thing I can suggest is putting an ice cube in you (or letting him do it :) )before he enters, this way it'll help keep you a little wetter and it makes the sex more interesting. My husband was like this before we had my daughter and I had the same reaction as you! I don't think they realize that yeah after awhile it does get sore for us. Try more fore-play in the beginning, like getting him more to his point so this way when you guys do have sex he's closer to and it'll shorten the time for you. I don't know about other products out there to help with this but it is definitely something I want to look into now (haha) so if I find anything I will come back here and post it.

There is a toy on the market for men it's a masturbation unit here is the link. Male Masturbation Sleeves you both could have fun with it.

He is falling into a common trap... hormones and the fact if he can get it as offten as he feels like it he's certainly going to try... for him its all about getting off, and as often as he can, its not about love to him... not when it's that many times a day. YOu see it as love... he see's a willing sperm receptacle. And you are obliging him... Trust me... I was there at one point in my life, I know exactly what's in his mind.

Second issue to always keep in mind. Even with judicious birth control use there is still a possibility of pregnancy. What you are doing is gambling, in effect playing the odds. If you get pregnant obliging HIS wants... do you want his kid, would you marry this guy? THen there are diseases, you are most likely not his first. This is an aspect few young people consider.

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Originally Posted by chrissymarie

what can I do to keep him satisfied? Is there and product out there to minimize vaginal soreness during sex? Is it normal for him to want sex so much? He's 21 and I am 20.

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Hello chrissy:

Have you tried to satisfy him orally?? That'll save some wear and tear. Is it normal?? With a chick as hot as you, YES.

excon

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Originally Posted by smoothy

Second issue to always keep in mind. Even with judicious birth control use there is still a possibility of pregnacy. What you are doing is gambling, in effect playing the odds. If you get pregnant obliging HIS wants.....do you want his kid, would you marry this guy? THen there are diseases, you are most likely not his first. This is an aspect few young people consider.

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I think almost every couple having sex has the risk of pregnancy and diseases but the trick is to minimize them as much as possible. And we do. Birth control and condoms most of the time and we have both been tested. So as long as were both faithful we should stay disease free. If I did get pregnant no I wouldn't be ready for a child but I would get ready. I also would not have to marry him.

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Originally Posted by excon

Have you tried to satisfy him orally???

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His penis is too big and my jaw is too small. It doesn't quite work when I try.

Everyone has different sex drives and it might be normal for a guy his age. My fiancé is in his early 30's and have a higher sex drive and actually he sounds like your boyfriend. When I isn't in the mood or had enough I tell him to look at a porny movie and do his business to that.

Communication is a big part of every relationship, actually it's the most important part.

You're both young, so of course sex is still the number one thing on your minds, especially his. Does that mean he should always have what he wants even though you don't? No.

Talk to him, because if you can't do that you don't have a relationship, you're just having sex.

I can get like that, and it's really hard to control. I even warned a girl I was about the sleep with "if we do this, I'm going to need it all the time. I can't just casually f***, you need to realize this...". I tried to scare her out of it 'cause I liked her. Well, it didn't work and I gave in, and fell into a trap. The sex was great so I only wanted more. I never asked her for sex, but she knew I was dyin'. It makes me feel so damn helpless; I hate it.

We broke up in October and I haven't seen her since.

From a man's perspective, I really have no idea what to tell you although I wish I did. But, if you find a cure let me know. I got to kick this habit, it consumes everything.

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Originally Posted by slapshot_oi

I can get like that, and it's really hard to control. I even warned a girl I was about the sleep with "if we do this, I'm going to need it all the time. I can't just casually f***, you need to realize this...". I tried to scare her out of it 'cause I liked her. Well, it didn't work and I gave in, and fell into a trap. The sex was great so I only wanted more. I never asked her for sex, but she knew I was dyin'. It makes me feel so damn helpless; I hate it.

We broke up in October and I haven't seen her since.

From a man's perspective, I really have no idea what to tell you although I wish I did. But, if you find a cure let me know. I gotta kick this habit, it consumes everything.

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I wished there was one too. I've tried the "I don't feel good I've a headache thing" but that doesn't work because his response to that is "okay, you don't have to do nothing just laid there" than sometimes I say " I've diarhea" and then he make a face and said when don't have to it.

However, I did just talked to him about and we came up with a soluation. So yes, talking about the issues does help.

We talk about it but it's like I'm talking to a wall. I'll tell him "not right now babe... I'm sore ok?" and then he'll "alright..." with a little sad face ask me for it like an hr later. Its like when he get the urge he can't think about anything else until he's satisfied. I've told him to go masterbate but then after he's done he just acts all mad at me. I'm definitely losing this battle.

Cm,

You are letting him abuse you because you are afraid to stand up to him! :)

Did you hear about that fashion model who died recently after physicians tried to save her by amputations?

She had a *bladder infection* that went septic, and she died a horrible death.

It's serious for a woman to keep her genitals healthy, and overdoing intercourse is harmful from a germ standpoint and a pain standpoint.

Take care of yourself, :)

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Originally Posted by chrissymarie

we talk about it but it's like i'm talking to a wall. I'll tell him "not right now babe... I'm sore ok?" and then he'll "alright..." with a little sad face ask me for it like an hr later. Its like when he get the urge he can't think about anything else until he's satisfied. I've told him to go masterbate but then after he's done he just acts all mad at me. I'm definitely losing this battle.

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So what? Are you his personal Sperm receptacle? Tell him next time he pouts is the last time he touches you again, ever.

If you can't find the courage to stand up to him, then tell him you want paid callgirl wages... which are $350 - $450 an hour, paid in full hour incriments, in advance, CASH, no credit. Because dear, he is treating you like a prostitute, and if this is going to continue you want to be paid like one. And even then... even then they ( the callgirl, not the client) STILL establishes limits as to what, how much and how often.

I bet he wakes up and listens then...

I had an issue like this with my boyfriend. Im not sure if it is the same, but it tore me up to see him so hurt when I stood my ground and said no but sometimes you just have to. But you must realise that if you ignore what you want you will resent the sex anyway. 'Fixing' yourself to meet his needs is not the solution - you need to look after your own just as much.

Sometimes a 'sperm recepticle' IS NOT the only thing he is thinking about. I know my partner truly enjoys being with me intimately and it makes him feel loved. It took a while for my boyfriend to understand that me not wanting sex was perfectly all right and that it wasn't a reflection of him or how much I loved him. Especially if you explain it physically hurts you then he shouldn't even WANT to make demands on you.

Hope this helps. Just talk to him. You should be able to judge for yourself just how mature and understanding he is.

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Originally Posted by endofmyrope

I had an issue like this with my boyfriend. Im not sure if it is the same, but it tore me up to see him so hurt when I stood my ground and said no but sometimes you just have to. But you must realise that if you ignore what you want you will resent the sex anyways. 'Fixing' yourself to meet his needs is not the solution - you need to look after your own just as much.

Sometimes a 'sperm recepticle' IS NOT the only thing he is thinking about. I know my partner truly enjoys being with me intimately and it makes him feel loved. It took a while for my boyfriend to understand that me not wanting sex was perfectly alright and that it wasnt a reflection of him or how much I loved him. Especially if you explain it physically hurts you then he shouldn't even WANT to make demands on you.

Hope this helps. Just talk to him. You should be able to judge for yourself just how mature and understanding he is.

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I've been a young guy... I know exactly what is going on in his brain.

Unless he already married you... then "Sperm recepticle " is the correct term. Getting off is first in his head... love is the furthest thing from it.

And his "hurt" is only his ego... not getting what he demands when he demands it... signs of emotional imaturity on his part.

Glad you stood your ground in your case... more young women should do that when faced with being pressured.