When I was 16 I met this guy while playing volleyball we started seeing each other everything was the best & going good but 4 months later I found out he was still seeing his ex behind my back.. I felt I loved this boy so so much that I allowed him to keep seeing her.. & now its been a little bit more than a year & he leaves me for my cousin.. he keeps telling that's only for a little bit of time that he loves me and everything will be back to normal he says he needs time.. does he really love me like he says he does? :confused::(:mad::confused::confused::confused::co nfused:

What do I do when I feel I have fallen for a guy & can't get him out of my mind?

You allowed him to keep seeing her, while he was seeing you? Now he's left you for your cousin but it's only "for al ittle bit" but he still loves you?

If you're not okay with this voice it. Draw your boundaries. Is it an open or a closed relationship? Tell him what you need and what you will not put up with. Because honestly there are tons of fish in the sea and you could find a man that loves you AND doesn't sleep/date other women behind your back.

In my opinion if any guy did that the only thing they'd ever hear or see from me is "peace" and a wave goodbye.

HUH? You let him cheat on you because you love him? Are you kidding me? The only thing he needs time for is sticking it to your cousin. You need to have more self respect. Do not let this guy back into your life.

I know its tough, but from your story, you are obviously young. At this age if he is messing around with multiple girls then he obviously isn't mature enough to be in a serious relationship. He may like you, but he does not love you because someone who loved you would not cheat on you constantly.

Hi, aventurera13!

Is thinking about him a lot causing a problem for you? If so, what would that be, please?

Time and getting involved in other things that you love to do and also people whom you love would be one thing to try.

Hopefully, others will be along to address your question.

Thanks!

When you love someone so much and tolerate bad behavior from them, and allow yourself to be disrespected, Thats not love, thats sick!!

You love him more than you love yourself, and that will never work! Kick him to the curb!!

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Thank you I guess the only reason I felt I really needed him was because I don't have my mom wit me now she's in prison & my dad havnet seen himin years

My ex made me feel loved but I'm finally getting to open my eyes & now its him begging me please because I have found some one that I really like & I know for a fact that he likes me to


Thanks your advice helped me forget about that a**hole

Hi, aventurera13!

If you've found someone you like, and he likes you, then I would suggest going with the flow to see what happens.

I'm glad that you're finally getting to the stage of really opening yours eyes and realizing what has truly been happening!

Thanks!