I've been with this guy for over six months. We had a great sex life which is good because I have a high sex drive. Every other guy I've been with I've cheated on. Well lately it started that he couldn't have sex verylong then it went to he couldn't have it everyday. Now its been a month and he doesn't want me. He says its his meds but I don't believe him. I try and get him to watch porn but that doesn't even work. Tonight it started a fight because I am sick of having to please myself. I love him I don't want to cheat on him but I'm so sexually frustrated and its like he doesn't even care. He got mad because I said I didn't care what we did but damn all I want to do is have sex and he always turns me down. I've lost all of myself confidence and I feel like I'm just not sexy and not worth it. Honestly sex is so important to me I think I am falling out of love with him. At the same time I don't cheat on him so I know I do love him. What can I do?

What kind of meds are we talking about here? Yes meds can affect the sex drive.

Eheh, I honestly don't know what guy would turn down sex.. but I suppose talk to him about it. Communication is key in a relationship!

"Actions speak louder than words", girl. He just isn't into you anymore.

The relationship burned out... there are plenty of men to choose from. Move on.

Best wishes, :)

If you feel like your falling out of love with him then you shold just brake up with him because you can't say you love someone but your falling out of love with them because you don't your just thinking about the sex and that will bring more trouble into the relationship because your not on the same page. If he really is on meds then it could be true that he's just not in the mood and its not his fault,or (and I hate to say it) because you've always cheated on your partner the table has turned and he may not be in the mood because he already got it, and just uses you for everything else.



Good luck.god bless.trice1

You should brake up with him I don't think anything is going to advanced

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Originally Posted by MatMatt22

I've been with this guy for over six months. We had a great sex life which is good because I have a high sex drive. Every other guy I've been with I've cheated on. Well lately it started out that he couldn't have sex verylong then it went to he couldn't have it everyday. Now its been a month and he doesn't want me. He says its his meds but I don't believe him. I try and get him to watch porn but that doesn't even work. Tonight it started a fight because I am sick of having to please myself. I love him I don't want to cheat on him but I'm so sexually frustrated and its like he doesn't even care. He got mad because I said I didn't care what we did but damn all I wanna do is have sex and he always turns me down. I've lost all of my self confidence and I feel like I'm just not sexy and not worth it. Honestly sex is so important to me I think I am falling out of love with him. At the same time I don't cheat on him so I know i do love him. What can i do?

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You can learn to actually like yourself for one, it's clear as day that you don't.

Secondly, break up with him before you make the same mistake again.

You two don't make a good match.

I wouldn't write him of just yet if I were you. Like Tal asked: what kind of meds is he on?? because it really can affect your sex drive. In march 2008 I talked to my doctor about taking anti-anxiety meds, he put me on an anti-depressant (that also helps for panic anxiety) and my sex drive hit the dumps.

I mean, if he doesn't even get turned on by porn (LOL not that everyone does) but I'm guessing he usually does, seeing as you tried it.

So: WHAT TYPES OF MEDS?

It's obivious that your boyfriend, at least, have a medical condition so maybe you should research the medication he is taking and review the side affects.

I know you have needs but you know your boyfriend situation better than we do so maybe you should be a little understanding or try to do things to get him in the mood.

However, if don't want to than leave for the both of your sake. If you do stay maybe you can try to pleasure yourself and try a vibrator.

I hope you come back and explain more about your boyfriend situation and what meds he is taking.