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My daughter has a 3 year old son who doesn't speak yet and of course gets frustated when he can't say what he wants or get his way. My daughter shouts at him, he then stops crying and says OK... kisses her many times and goes his way... is this the right way to educate a little boy of just 3??
Screaming can backfire on her in many ways,
The 4 yr old down the street from me now talks to his mother the way she did him. He yells back, ""WOMAN! Shut the F** * Up and stick it where the sun don't shine, You are right you are da B****,'' He is a little parrot.
Then when he gets older he most likely will have even more disrespect and disobey even more.
Her screaming is just causing HER to get frustrated and giving him negative attention. If he's "getting frustrated" (you didn't say what he does... does he tantrum? Cry?)... because he's not getting his way... then she should ignore the behavior (as long as he is safe) and calmly give him 2 options ( a preferred choice vs. non-preferred choice) ~~Example: "You can continue to kick and cry and lose your *fill in blank with his favorite toy* for the night, or you can calm down keep it for tonight." But she has to follow through even if he makes the choice to cry... he'll cry when he doesn't have what he wants... but if she keeps to it, eventually he'll learn to choose the preferred choice. As for him being frustrated because he cannot express what he wants... she can take pictures of things around the house that he often might ask for (examples- cookie, drink, a toy... etc.) and he can point to the picture. Then to teach him, she should say the word of the picture, and make him repeat it before giving him what he wants. Most importantly she must stay calm and be consistent!! Best of luck! :)
As for him being frustrated because he cannot express what he wants... she can take pictures of things around the house that he often might ask for (examples- cookie, drink, a toy... etc.) and he can point to the picture. Then to teach him, she should say the word of the picture, and make him repeat it before giving him what he wants. Most importantly she must stay calm and be consistent!! Best of luck! :)[/QUOTE]
That's a very good point. I wish I would have thought of that when I was going through that with my son.
He should be of an age where he can express his needs.He should be talking but will never learn to talk unless he is spoken to.'
You need to have an ongoing conversation with children.There should be no limit.His understanding at his age is far above his ability to express it.He is understanding.
Patience and repetition is key.
What she need to do to encourage his vocabulary is to ask him to repeat what she has said.If he wants juice she should say"do you want juice"?
"Can you please say juice for mommy and I will give it to you".
Even if he makes an attempt but in not completely successful he should be praised and encouraged.She should then repeat her request."I want juice Mommy". Then give him what he wants.
She sounds like she would benefit from taking some basic parenting classes!
I am a retired teacher and mother and grandmother and my two yr.old preemie granddaughter is able to express her wishes.Because of good parenting.
If he isn't talking yet she needs to take him to speech therapy. She should also talk to a psychologist or someone about her parenting technique. Yelling at the kid every time he misbehaves is not going to teach him how he should act. It's just going to teach him that when he engages in that behavior, she yells.
There might be a parenting group or classes in your area. If so, I would suggest she check them out. Even a group of parents that get together every week might be helpful. She would be able to see how the other parents interact with their children and get advice from them.
He needs to be seen by a speech therapist, at the age of 3 he should be able to communicate.
Okay peeps, a newbie posted on an old thread and we all followed suit.
Bad us. :(
I'm reporting it.
The OP was a one hit wonder, never came back so no sense in posting further.
Peace out. ;)
Its all my FAULT! :eek:Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
I told you to answer! I'm sorry!
It would be funny if I said you got PUNKED but you didn't ,just my inattention :)
I am kind of laughin' though .:p
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