Ok so my last period was on the 14 of dec.I had sex on the 3rd of January he didn't in me but I was on top and my vagina was on his penis but he did pre a little but then 3 days later I had really bad cramping and I had got my period... But it came a week earlier than it was suppose to... at first I thought it was spoting that was happening but it wasn't it was a normal period heavy flow as always it lasted 5-7 days I had cloting like always but on the 4 day of my period der was this big blood clot that was urging to come out and it did but other dan that nothing... its been 3 weeks but now I don't know when my period suppose to come either the 14 or the 7 of this month[to include I think I have irregular periods because before I even lost me virginity I first had my periods at the end of every month it changed to 14 and now since I had sex for the first time it changed again and started early it became the 7th now I don't know what to do its very confusin to me since I'm only 14 but please answer me... could I be pregnant?

It's possible, but not likely. Sex a few days before a period is probably one of the least likely times to get pregnant, but not impossible.
See what happens in the next couple of weeks when you would likely have another period.
Use protection every time, to lower your odds of an unplanned pregnancy even more.

Finally someone answers me... well I'm on week 4 now and my period doesn't come 4 about a week and 2 days but I don't feel anything no symptoms at all normal ones that you get before a period tender breast for about 5 days and pimples on face face like always but I'm still worried... sorry to both but why did my period come so early 3 days after my fist time?? very confused

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It's possible, but not likely. Sex a few days before a period is probably one of the least likely times to get pregnant, but not impossible.
See what happens in the next couple of weeks when you would likely have another period.
Use protection everytime, to lower your odds of an unplanned pregnancy even more.

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Finally someone answers me... well I'm on week 4 now and my period doesn't come 4 about a week and 2 days but I don't feel anything no symptoms at all normal ones that you get before a period tender breast for about 5 days and pimples on face face like always but I'm still worried... sorry to both but why did my period come so early 3 days after my fist time?? very confused

Some women will find having sex very close to when they are due for their periods will start things off a bit early. That may be all it was from.

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Some women will find having sex very close to when they are due for their periods will start things off a bit early. That may be all it was from.

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So what your saying is that there's a strong possibility that I'm not pregnant... and I was wondering can a doctor know if you had intercourse from a urine test?? [ in this case... me for example... remember I said I had intercourse well it really didn't get there because he hurted me so much when he was trying to put it in that I said stop and we didn't do anything plus he had a condom during that time so we didn't do anything at all den dats when he took it off and put me on top like I said in my other post my friend said that da reason he pre-comed was because he was on hard for a long time so when he was trying to put it in she said that she guess he got really excited and he came to include that was my boyfriends first time to so is she right about that?. well my mom took me to the clinic for a normal check up and I had to take a urine test though we didn't do anything but tried to put it in can the doctor tell by the test that I tried to have sex... sorry for bothering but your really helping me out by doing this?. and thank you so much for the edvice

No, they wouldn't be able to tell that you had sex from a urine test.
Your boyfriend should not be inside you at all without a condom, whether he intends to withdraw or not before he ejaculates, as when he is aroused sperm can be present just from that. There will always be a chance of pregnancy, even if a slight chance.

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No, they wouldn't be able to tell that you had sex from a urine test.
Your boyfriend should not be inside you at all without a condom, whether he intends to withdraw or not before he ejaculates, as when he is aroused sperm can be present just from that. There will always be a chance of pregnancy, even if a slight chance.

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So if I get a physical done the doctor wouldn't know unless I tell her or have an std which I don't... but thanks a lot for your help

They may suspect if you happen to have some irritation or small abrasions... but you really should be upfront about having had sex with your doctor. What you discuss will be only between the two of you.

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They may suspect if you happen to have some irritation or small abrasions...but you really should be upfront about having had sex with your doctor. What you discuss will be only between the two of you.

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But if I do be upfront wouldn't trhey tell your mom because my doctor was asking me all these sex question like have you ever had sex etc right in front of my mom and I of couse denied them I reqlly wanted to say the truth but my mom will kill me I'm only 14 so I was kind of scared of how dey mite judge me and plus I don't want my mom to hate what should I do??

Personally I think you should stop having sex until you are older and have a better understanding of how your body works.
IF you decide to continue to have sex, you need to make sure you are protected every single time... no giving in if your boyfriend tries to persuade you otherwise. His pulling out does not guarantee you won't get pregnant. Other things girls, and guys, sometimes think will prevent them from getting pregnant are going to the bathroom right afterwards, standing up right after, taking the condom off after the guy has ejaculated thinking there is no more sperm present, etc..

No one thinks pregnancy will happen to them, it always happens to someone else. But to others, you are that someone else!

If you wouldn't be able to care for a baby financially, physically, and emotionally on your own, then either wait on the sex or at the very least, reduce the odds and use birth control. Getting pregnant at a young age can cause you and your baby to have more possible problems. No doubt you would want the very best for a child when you decide that the time is right... do all that you can to insure that.

You have to take care of yourself... you are the one who can get pregnant, you are the one who would have to juggle school and a baby, you are the one who will be getting up during the nights, you are the one who will have to stay home at times when you would like to be out with friends, you are the one who would have to change your plans for yourself for the future. Your boyfriend may tell you he will be there for you if you get pregnant, but sadly many do not... even if they really do believe what they say... and then others are thinking more of getting to have sex then the possibility of a pregnancy... because, once again, no one thinks it will happen to them!

It is unfortunate that you were asked in front of your mother, because of course many young girls would not be truthful in that situation.

Do give some thought to how you will handle things from now on. Think about you and protecting yourself. Discuss this scare with your boyfriend and decide how things are going to be from now on. Talk about it before you are caught up in fooling around and it becomes difficult to speak up. If you can't talk openly and honestly about it, that tells you need to wait.

Sorry for the book... :) I work with too many young girls and see just how hard things can be sometimes. Again, odds are you are not pregnant, so take this as a wake up call and make some changes.

Just one more thought... if you don't feel comfortable discussing your sexual experience with your doctor in front of your mother, you might want to ask for some privacy. Perhaps just tell your mom that now that you're becoming a young woman, you'd like to have your checkups by yourself.

Always be as open as you can be with your doctor, he can't take proper care of you if he doesn't have all the facts. And I have to agree with Doula, sex isn't something that should be taken lightly. You have to protect yourself. And you should really know more about your own body and the act of sex before attempting it again.

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Just one more thought... if you don't feel comfortable discussing your sexual experience with your doctor in front of your mother, you might want to ask for some privacy. Perhaps just tell your mom that now that you're becoming a young woman, you'd like to have your checkups by yourself.

Always be as open as you can be with your doctor, he can't take proper care of you if he doesn't have all the facts. And I have to agree with Doula, sex isn't something that should be taken lightly. You have to protect yourself. And you should really know more about your own body and the act of sex before attempting it again.

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I understand what you and her are saying but you just don't know my mom she likes to be in everything if I wouldve told the doctor that wanted to tawk to her with some privacy my mom wouldve been like o forwat she wouldve suspected that I tried to have sex... another question well I'm a female that started her period very early I have a lot of hormons for instance ma mom was taking a lot of pills while being pregnant with me because she didn't know that she was pregnant so when I born ma mother told me that 18 days later I started growing little hairs under my armpit and had little pubic hairs and my mother went to the doctor and he told her that since she was take birth control pills while being prgnant with me that she passed some of her hormons to me... she told me that when I was only 6 I had this little red discharge come out of me like if I was going to get a period and my breast we developed already like a normal little girls breast that was going to begin puberty... well my point is since I have a lot of hormons could that be the cause of the veins on my chest and on my breast??

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i understand what you and her are saying but ya just dont know my mom she likes to be in everything if i wouldve told the doctor that wanted to tawk to her with some privacy my mom wouldve been like o forwat she wouldve suspected that i tried to have sex.....another question well im a female that started her period very early i have alot of hormons for instance ma mom was takin alot of pills while being pregnant with me because she didnt know dat she was pregnant so wen i born ma mother told me that 18 days later i started growing little hairs under my armpit and had little pubic hairs n my mother went to the doctor n he told her that since she was take birth control pills while bein prgnant with me that she passed some of her hormons to me.....she told me that wen i was only 6 i had this little red discharge come out of me like if i was goin to get a period and my breast we developed already like a normal little girls breast that was going to begin puberty......well my point is since i have alot of hormons could dat b the cause of the veins on my chest n on my breast?????????????

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I'm not sure about any of the hormone complications.

But I do have another question about you seeing the doctor. Do you have an aunt or older sister that you trust? Some female relative that you could confide in so that she could make sure you get the proper care from your doctor?

Also, are you in the US? Most places have local clinics like Planned Parenthood where you could have a consultation to discuss safe sex and the risk for STDs and pregnancy. You might even be able to make an appointment and attend on your own. But if you have an aunt or older sister, I strongly suggest talking to them.

I have two little sisters that are about your age and I try to talk with them openly about these subjects. I wish I could reach out and hug you because you shouldn't be making all these decisions and learning all of this at such a young age and without anyone to confide in.

At 14, you will be experiencing changes in hormone levels just naturally... the more noticeable veins could be from that.

It's not very common, but some girls, and boys, will experience very early signs of puberty for various reasons. Do you know if you ever had any tests done... or was it left solely as result from your mother's use of birth control pills?
Hormones from the mother's system will often be evident in a newborn at first, but the results of that tend to subside fairly quickly.

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I'm not sure about any of the hormone complications.

But I do have another question about you seeing the doctor. Do you have an aunt or older sister that you trust? Some female relative that you could confide in so that she could make sure you get the proper care from your doctor?

Also, are you in the US? Most places have local clinics like Planned Parenthood where you could have a consultation to discuss safe sex and the risk for STDs and pregnancy. You might even be able to make an appointment and attend on your own. But if you have an aunt or older sister, I strongly suggest talking to them.

I have two little sisters that are about your age and I try to talk with them openly about these subjects. I wish I could reach out and hug you because you shouldn't be making all these decisions and learning all of this at such a young age and without anyone to confide in.

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The only people that know are my older sister she's 19 but she's all the way in Florida and I'm in New York and the other person is my aunty I trust her a lot I told her what happen and she wasn't mad she said things happen but I don't know what to do because my mom would freak... and is there a planned parenthood in New York?

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the only people that know are my older sister shes 19 but shes all the way in florida and im in new york and the other person is my aunty i trust her alot i told her what happen and she wasnt mad she said things happen but i dont know what to do because my mom would freak......and is ther a planned parenthood in new york?

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Call your aunty today and ask her if she can help you make an appointment with your doctor. You can see your normal doctor and confide in him. Tell him what's going on and that you did not feel comfortable speaking about it in front of your mother. Since you have an aunty you can trust, you don't need Planned Parenthood. Tell her you need some education on your body and sex.

*Hugs*

Now go call your aunty.

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At 14, you will be experiencing changes in hormone levels just naturally....the more noticable veins could be from that.

It's not very common, but some girls, and boys, will experience very early signs of puberty for various reasons. Do you know if you ever had any tests done...or was it left soley as result from your mother's use of birth control pills?
Hormones from the mother's system will often be evident in a newborn at first, but the results of that tend to subside fairly quickly.

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No I never had any test done its was left like that and also from that I was born with an extra toe on my foot the doctor said it was also to the pills but it was surgically removed I'm a 36C and my breast have stretch marks and the doctor said that's because I had breast since I was 6 and my skin stretched and there still going to gorw even more so my doctor now is going to put me on medications because of my hormons and how they are not everywhere and unleveled like I said before me period changes a lot so she sais datt she going to try to control them this is all confusing to me... and what you mean by that last part about the newborn?

Seriously, getting pregnant shouldn't be your first concern. Your main concern should be staying alive and healthy. Use a condom Every time, you'll reduce your risk of getting an STD or AIDS and it will reduce your chances of getting pregnant. Sex is a big step, be sure you're ready. Good Luck!

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You are getting great advice from the other posters, please consider what they are saying.