Hi
Well I have this problem.. I mean I think my whole life is a disaster
I figured I can't trust any one! I am really hurt by this fact! And I don't like any thing in my life.. there is nothing that makes me want to get of bed each day.. I am sad! For many reasons! But what can I do to get over these feelings and start having a life and a great days too?
And is it my fault that I am feeling this way? I mean some people say that no one should give up to painful feelings but is that right? Please help me and tell me what to do or how to start living or thinking about life!

It's funny how these things work, not in a ha ha way either. I think all of us have days where we're hurting and don't want to feel. I find numbness comes to me when I'm really, really hurting. It's sort of the minds way of coping. I get stuck in ruts a lot where I'm sad and really have nothing to get out of bed for just like you've said. There are probably two ways to look at this. You can either let the numbness stay or try to combat whatever is making you feel that way. If you don't want to do that than you have to move on away from the situation that seems to be bothering you. If you can't pinpoint whatever that is than try looking for the things that used to make you happy. Find the friends and people that used to make you smile. Surround yourself from good things. Thinking positively doesn't always help but I think it can be beneficial. Wake up knowing things will change. That maybe it's bad now but there will be something good ahead. If nothing else live for that moment, and the many moments ahead. I don't think it's your fault. To feel is to be alive no matter what way it is. If people say that we shouldn't give up to painful feelings than they are in essence saying we shouldn't give up to happy feelings either. That's crazy. Don't worry things can only get better, I hope you're feelign better soon.

Dear Sarah,

I tell you my personal experience :
Don't try to achieve anything in one go.
Slowly focus on making things workout one brick at a time,
Don't think what other tell about you,
Ask yourself what your strengths and weakness are:
Don't repent for your weakness try to overcome them: one brick at a time;
Don't be a snot for your strengths : have them stronger brick by brick.


Respect others and be respected by others if you feel you are going negative somewhere , cling on with one or two positive people around you:

Learn how to play and be played around!
Don't forget this simple truth of life you are here not for long : grasp the most good things that come to you without caring for how its going to be next time...