My boyfriend and I have been in our relationship for about 10 months now.
When we first began to have sex we did so frequently. Not 3 times a day but at least once every other day. Now I am lucky if I get it once a week. When we do actually have any sort of sexual activity he never initiates it. I always have to bug him for it. I tried backing off for periods at a time but that only leads to my own emotional turmoil. I have openly spoken to him about it I the past and he gets very defensive about it. I don't attack him or criticize him I just ask why he never wants to be intimate with me anymore. When we are intimate on the rare occasion he doesn't put any effort into it. Last time we were intimate I serviced him orally for about 5 minutes and when he went down on me it was only 30 seconds before he stopped. This is really unlike him because he usually enjoys doing this. I try to be as open an talk as much as possible. Today I asked him before not going into the shower to not jerk off because I wanted him to save it for me. I went in to join him (thinking I coul spice things up) and he was jerking off! After not having sex for a week he's jerking off when I asked him not to!! I don't care if he materbates but please!

My gut says he is cheating. I don't know. Help.
It's too early in the relationship to lose the fire. I wonder if we ever had the fire in the first place.

If the relationship is in trouble now what will it be like a year down the track. To me, it appears that he loves himself more than he does you. All I can suggest is get him out of your life and I think that's what he wants but hasn't got the guts to tell you.:(:(

How often does he masterbate?

It could be that he can't get off on sex alone anymore, after all, his grip is always going to be tighter than any women out there.

But, if he was into it before and this is just recent then you really need to get to the bottom of this. Tell him that this is upsetting you to the point that you're wondering whether to stay with him.

He may get frustrated or upset, but if you can't talk to him about it then you really don't have a relationship.

There is something going on he isn't happy with. You are going to have to find out by talking to him, don't assume its anything obvious.

Actions speak louder than words, my friend.

What are the particulars about your relationship... who works, ages, that sort of thing?