She is happy with another man what should I do now
Hello y'all I'm new on here and I will try to keep it short. I been reading about heartbreaks and stuff and so far I really like the way wildcat21 and ash123 answer questions. Hopefully I can get an answer from both of you but I really need a woman's opinion to help me understand. Well I started dating this girl when I was 18 and she was 22. I always messed with older woman but was never in a relationship. She was very nice and had a good heart so I thought I would take the risk and give love a chance. I felt myself developing love for her but normally I would pull back before the feelings got too strong. I gave it a chance. We were together for 3 years after just messing around for one. I know she really loved me with all her heart and she proved it over and over again. I really loved her too. Then I started second guessing if I did this too young and if I really wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I guess it showed and she started feeling unappreciated. I thought she knew that I love her but I guess I had to keep reassuring her. Then she sat me down to talk a few times. She was crying and I left because I hated to see her cry. She sat me down one last time crying her heart out telling me that she never gave her exes this chance and she wanted me to change this and that or she is walking out. I told her that I'm not going to stop her. In the meantime she started talking to this 40 year old guy at work and he was being a friend. She told him everything that she didn't and didn't like about us and what makes her happy. I did not know all of this stuff I wish she had told me. Well after she broke up with me on christmas they spent the night together that same night. Then on new years she was at his family's house. I first felt guilty until I found this out and realized she left me for him. We talked after the break up and she wanted to come back but I was doing all the wrong things like test message terrorism and calling and going to her family. I pushed her into his arms without knowing it. I'm normally a calm headed guy but this was my first love, first relationship, and first heartbreak so I couldn't handle it calmly. I will next time 8f it happens again. Now she became his girlfriend after only two weeks of talking and she showed me a text he send her saying he loves her. I told her that he can't love you that fast he is lying. She took it as jealousy. When she left I had time to reflect on my life and realized that I do want to marry her. To be honest I thought she ain't going nowhere but she did. I took her for granted and she left. I'm pretty handsome so I have girls that holla at me but its not the same. Since I had a good relationship I want that again not just a friend. She said that he makes her feel like a queen and does everything. She doesn't even have to ask he just does it. So she fell for him and said that she never felt this way before he seems perfect but I told her if it sounds to good to be true that it probably is. She will regret leaving me bacuase I was a good man I just had to learn how to make a woman feel loved and appreciated. Now since I quit xommunicating she been contacting me and I made the mistake to tell her that I still love her cause she told me that. She just can't leave him vause he is perfect.Ok sorry I am about to ask my question. I really love her and realized how much she means to me. I know if I had treated her better she would not have left. Should I give up or wait until he messes up. I can just have friends in the meantime but I do want a relationship I just prefer that. Can she really still love me if she has a new boyfriend that she is crazy about. She is still jealous about me talking to other women even though she has a boyfriend. I can tell that she does still love me. I messed up the relationship and I messed up and pushed her away by being a desperate wussie after. I got myself together now and I still love her and want to be with her. I know she will be back if it doesn't work out with her new boyfriend but I don't think he is all that she thinks but then again if he is she will be loyal to him cause that is how she is. So its all up to this dude. Please help me understand this from a woman's point of view and I'm willing to accept comments about how to proceed from here on from anyone. Thanks