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  • Jan 26, 2009, 12:15 PM
    krzekali89
    Did he cheat or not?
    Me and my b.f. lived 100 miles away for a year. I work at a tanning salon right now and I met this guy tom. Me and tom are JUST FRIENDS! However I found out that my boyfriend and tom got into a fight last year. They almost hit each others car at the movies. They are both prideful and cocky so it caused a scene.

    Now tom likes me, he's told me a thousand times. But he knows that ihave a b.f. and I am not leaving him. So we stayed friends and in conversation I asked tom about that night at the movies. And tom told me that my boyfriend had a girl in the car with him, not another guy. HOWEVER tom also is a cocky SOB who usually gets every girl he likes. So I asked my boyfriend about it and he said no way I didn't have a girl what the hell... why would you believe him.

    My boyfriend has NEVER lied to me and when he has he comes clean when I catch him Every time and I told him that I wouldn't of cared because it was a year ago and he's with me now. I think my boyfriend wold of told me. Last year (when we were apart) I knew all of his internet passwords, his email, myspace, and AIM. And I never was suspious of anything. His AIM profile was all about me and how him and I are going to make it and get married and his myspace was devoted to our relationship. What senior in HS didn't have a myspace I think I would have saw something that raised suspions. We both didn't have a cell phone last year so we would all each other from house phones AND on our work phones on break. We hung out every weekend, sometimes every other weekend. And I am best friends with his little sister and she is a sneak and would watch him and listen to his phone calls and visi him at work and she said that she never saw or heard anything and trust me she would have told me because she hates him and had told me bad things that he's done before.

    So if I never was suspious then, should I still be questioning it? My insticts say no but I can't stop thinking about it. The kid who told me HATES my boyfriend and likes me a lot so is he just trying to start drama?

    He reason I am still thinking about it is because I feel that if he did do it and he gets away with it, he will do it again. So I want to make sure he didn't do it. And m grandma committed suicide because my grandpa was cheating on her and if he cheated then I don't want to stay with him because once a cheat always a cheater.


    Someone please help me out.

    Oh and I forgot Tom could remember the kind of car he was driving and the color, he remebered that my boyfriend had longer hair and that he was jacked, however he couldn't tell me anything about the female, who suppostedly looked right at him and said something to him.
  • Jan 26, 2009, 12:20 PM
    Justwantfair

    You are mistaken with the "once a cheater always a cheater" scenerio. I think that you need to have faith in your boyfriend as it is all hearsay at this point and you have no fact to support that he would ever be unfaithful. You trust your boyfriend, don't change that because some guy wants to cause a rift between the two of you.
  • Jan 26, 2009, 01:30 PM
    liz28

    Okay, Tom likes you and you knows it so wouldn't you think he would do or say anything since you already knows what his intentions are? So my question to you is why are you his friend? Maybe this isn't a good idea.

    You should know your boyfriend but you stated, if I am reading right, that sometime last year the two of you wasn't together. So if this did happen it wasn't cheating because the two of you wasn't together.

    Now did he really happen? Only one person knows and that person was your boyfriend.
  • Jan 26, 2009, 01:46 PM
    rockchick93

    I think that this guy is trying to build up some drama between you and your boyfriend. Never confuse yourself over things that people say.
    Trust your boyfriend and never believe what you hear, believe in what you see.

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