I'm a 30 yr old female with 3 kids and divorced . Fiancée is 35 male 3 kids and divorced.
We are both happier and more in love than we ever new possiable. We both went through very difficult divorces in their own different ways. We both swore we never would do that to ourselves again. But than we found each other and it is wonderful!
Why do people get married? What's the point I don't want him to marry me to take care of me or tax deductions or for insurance or to own one another I don't want it to be because it's the next natural step . I won't love him more or less either way. I don't think it matters if we are married or not. It doesn't guarantee anything and doesn't make them love or respect you any more than they do before the marriage. So why? Why do it! Why do I feel an acking in my soul the pit of my stomach wanting this man to be my husband wanting to be his wife. The kids call me their step mom already and he is step dad. Its not going to make a diffrence its no more commitment than we already have! We made that commitment a long time ago when we introduced our kids and let the other love our children we live to gether as a married family with 6 children. So once again why do I want this. Why is it so important to me. We have talked about it and both agree its probably the right thingto do and we should just do it, but when push comes to shove and we talk dates he freaks. We even got a marriage license once! I know he loves me more than he has loved anyone. He only married the first time because he was young and family told him it was the right thing to do! I don't ever want him to look back and regret our wedding like he does his first! I want him to marry me because he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me , but once again he already does so why do I want this so bad it hurts!
Somebody anybody please help me understand why people get married and why its so important if the committement is already their why bother . Any insight would be great and thanks