I work with my boyfriend and his ex. They broke up about 1 year ago, and it has not been a good relationship for sometimes. I have been with him for the past 6 months though he showed interest way before. The girl doesn't want to let go and she is really trying by all means to get him back. She also tries to intimidate me with a few things, I have been trying to be nice and calm about the situation. She is the receptionist and "our" guy is in the top management, and I am in the middle management. I know my boyfriend loves me very much. But I know he still talks to this girl through smses and calls, but I hate pestering him all the time about what they talk about. We have been treating our relationship at work very professional and utmost respect. I have been nice to the girl all along but not a friend to her. I didn't want her to have a miserable life in the office because of our relationship, but she just can't get it through her head that he is no longer hers. And my boyfriend too, I am not comfortable with the fact that they still communicate and he always says the girl is the one who initiates all the communications between them. I am forced to believe him because he really tries by all means to show me its over between them and he doesn't want her back. But how do I convince my head and heart that its not happening for them. What mostly surprises me is that this girl has a live-in boyfriend and yet she wants to mess for this guy. She had him and she messed up. Is it time for me to be a bit hard on my boyfriend and ask him to cut her out of his life for good or just live her at that. I try by all means to not let the situation get to me, but somehow it does. Your advises will be most appreciated.

If it is something that really bothers you (it would surely bother the heck out of me) I would recommend you tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him you trust him and not her and that the fact that they still communicate bothers you. (even if she's the one that initiates conversations he does not have to answer) If he loves you and appreciates your feelings he will undestand and cut all forms of communication. That doesn't mean he can't be cordial to her (if he runs into her at work say hi for example) just not buddy buddy. Hope this helps.

Hello.
My boy friend and I dated for 4 years,it was long distance relationship, but I knew him since I was little.our relationship went all well, we had lots of ups and dows, and he really wanted to marry me the moment we started dating, but I could do it because I had a lot of other issues sourounding me. He kept on asking me when I we should finally settle, but I kept on telling him to wait until I am done with school, I am in my second year in university and was thinking that I should marry after I am done, but he was very impetient. Eventually, he started not to call me and cuts all comunication with me, I became very sick about that and I could not do some of my final exams. After a while I met a friend of his online and he told me that he is married. I call him to confirm the story and he confirm that he is engaged.
I love him still and he is now a married man. Although he didn't threated me with respect, but I still love him so much. The lady he married is not an educated one. She has only elementry education.do you see any possiplity that I can get him back. And if you think so, what shall I do, currently he doesn't communicate, and he cut all phone calls from me.
I am so strssed and can't concentrate on school work. Please help