This is a little embarrassing, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and 1/2 years now we used to have sex whenever we could and it was great. I got pregnant and we still continued to have sex. After I have the baby we have sex 1-2 times a week. And that is a big difference from what we used to. Ill will play around with him and touch him and he will tell me chill out or relax. When I say how come we don't do much anymore , he says this isn't all about sex, and it gets us into an argument. I find myself crying at times thinking its me. I am so sexually attracted to him, sometimes I feel that I want to go out and find someone else that will satisfy me. But I could never do that. I know he isn't cheating on me. We are constantly together. But when the time comes and we do have sex it only lasts a couple minutes if that. And I have a really high sex drive and he doesn't now so I'm not satisfied at all when we do have sex or when we don't . Sometimes I feel that its better for us not to have sex because I'm just sitting there after wards just thinking to myself "That is IT" . What should I do. ANY ADVISE?

You can tell him how disatisfied you are, but truely, it sounds like he doesn't care... if he won't change then you are going to either be unhappy, or you are going to get out of the relationship...

I agree with bronzebabe, try to explain to him how you feel in a calm rational unemotional way.

If things don't change he doesn't care.

You are a woman now... you have a child... and whether you want to or not, you have to grow up. All women have to live and grow in their lives, not remain like a teenagers with stars in their eyes.

Why are you always together? That is a very bad thing. Your man has to be out making money for you and your child. If he doesn't, you have to move on. He doesn't make money and he treats you shabbily.

Live is live and learn.

Best wishes to you and your child, :)