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  • Jan 21, 2009, 10:36 PM
    child4ever
    There's an ex boyfriend I still love.
    I dated this guy for a while and right in the middle of falling for him we broke up. Crazy as it sounds I broke up with him after he got jealous of one of my boys. Anyway he moved away and I recently moved to the same area he lives in, and now we are only five minutes apart. I love him, what should I do?
  • Jan 21, 2009, 10:45 PM
    MarkwithaK

    How long has it been? Does he have any interest in you at this point? Chances are if he hasn't kept some sort of contact with you since the break up then he isn't interested.
  • Jan 21, 2009, 11:35 PM
    child4ever
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by MarkwithaK View Post
    How long has it been? Does he have any interest in you at this point? Chances are if he hasn't kept some sort of contact with you since the break up then he isn't interested.

    We broke up in June. He kept up with me after we broke up just calling to see how I was doing. He has been calling me ever since he found out I live so close and he wants me to come over this weekend. His roommate is going out of town.
  • Jan 22, 2009, 12:19 AM
    411Help

    Make sure you don't find yourself in a physical situation with him if you go over there, as he may very well be hoping to use you as an ex girlfriend who is willing to give up a one night stand once in a while.
  • Jan 22, 2009, 01:24 PM
    child4ever
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by 411Help View Post
    Make sure you don't find yourself in a physical situation with him if you go over there, as he may very well be hoping to use you as an ex girlfriend who is willing to give up a one night stand once in a while.

    Yeah, we would be alone if I went over there. Unfortunately we have already had sex since we broke up. That is why I am so afraid to spill my guts to him. I am afraid that he just wants a piece of . Which I can understand to some extent. One of the hardest things about is that I have not had sex in quiet a while and when we were together we had the most amazing sex of my life!
  • Jan 22, 2009, 05:58 PM
    talaniman

    How old are you both, and is he over being jealous of your boys? Are you sure he doesn't just want an easy booty call? What does he do to make you think he has feelings besides sex?
  • Jan 22, 2009, 07:17 PM
    child4ever
    He is 24 and I am 19. I am def not your average 19 year old. That is why I can't really date my age. He says he misses me a lot and even though I haven't seen him in a week he still calls daily just to talk. He also has a little boy who is almost 2 and sometimes I wonder if the reason for hangin on to my feelings for him didn't have something to do with his child.
  • Jan 22, 2009, 07:30 PM
    child4ever
    Maybe he wants to be alone for the conversation
    2 threads merged

    In reference to I still love my ex, Maybe he wants me to come over when his roommate goes out of town so that we can talk about. There is such a strong attraction between us its hard to think he doesn't want to get back together. Every time I have seen him since we broke up its always been when we were with big groups partyin. That is another reason I'm going to be really nervous. It will be the first time we have been alone together since we broke up.
  • Jan 22, 2009, 09:38 PM
    talaniman

    Quote:

    I am def not your average 19 year old
    What in the world does that mean?
  • Jan 22, 2009, 09:44 PM
    MarkwithaK
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    What in the world does that mean??

    I think it's something that average 19 year old's tell themselves to justify certain actions.
  • Jan 23, 2009, 05:52 PM
    talaniman
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by child4ever View Post
    2 threads merged

    In reference to I still love my ex, Maybe he wants me to come over when his roomate goes out of town so that we can talk about. There is such a strong attraction between us its hard to think he doesnt want to get back together. Everytime I have seen him since we broke up its always been when we were with big groups partyin. That is another reason im gonna be really nervous. It will be the first time we have been alone together since we broke up.

    Come on, talk?? Ya think that's all?? You can talk over coffee, or Mickey D's. You did say you were better than most 19 year olds didn't you? This is your chance to prove it.


    By the way starting another thread for the same subject can be confusing.
  • Jan 27, 2009, 04:58 PM
    child4ever

    No guys. I am not trying to justify anything. What I mean is most of the girls I meet my age are very imature, or spoiled. Whatever it may be. I got past all that a long time ago. I have been on my own, since I was about 16. Anyway I recently addressed the issue, I went to his house. I didn't stay the night but I was very strait up with him. I told him I wasn't going to be his little in between piece of . I told him I would not settle for half of him and by the time I got done expressing myself I realized that he was not ready for that. So I left, and decided back to the single life it is! You guys have given me some great advice. MarkwithaK I like how you don't sugar coat anything.
  • Jan 27, 2009, 05:01 PM
    child4ever

    Talaniman,
    I was jokin about the uh "maybe he just wants to talk" Any man any where will be getting some if they have any kind of oppurtunity.

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