Ok here is the deal. I have an Ex boyfriend that won't stop calling me 3 or more times a day even though I have told him its over and to stop. THe problem is that we have a baby girl together. I told him he can call either in the morning or at night any other time is a no no...
Well he keeps calling and I am scared for not only me but for my kids.

I feel as though I can't move on with my life even though I have told him I am getting married and he needs to get over it.

What can I do?

Only answer his calls when you told him it was okay to call.(mornings or at night) I know you will probably want to answer his call because it might have something to do with your child. But that's what voicemail is for. He will prob call twice as much in the beginning if you try this. But its just like training a new boyfriend to your preferences.lol hope it works out for you

Point him to this site so we can tell him to go NC!

As there is a child involved- I think it is very important that you sit down with him in a amicable way and work out a system that would allow him to do the father role well.

Make sure you both have a agreement with the situation as you both seriously need to think of the child as your number one priority.

Once this is resolved, then maybe he will accept your situation and back off calling you all the time?

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Originally Posted by expat2009

point him to this site so we can tell him to go NC!

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There is a child involved, NC thing won't work here

I'm a little concerned about why you are scared? Is he threatening you and your children with something? Are you afraid he is going to hurt them or take them from you, when he has your daughter? Have you gone to court to set up custody and visitation? You need to do this legally, so he has to follow the guidelines set by the courts.

Can you give us a little more information, so we don't give you advice that could be detrimental to the safety of you and your children?

I agree with setting up Court Ordered visitation rights you should definitely do this. Despite the fact you have a child together that isn't the reason he's calling so much. He is using that as an excuse to contact you in hopes to try and get you back.

Since you already communicated the times to call you don't answer the calls outside of this time frame. When you do speak with him and his conversation isn't about the well being of the child end the call and don't entertain any other subject of conversation with him.

If he is persistent in trying to get you back then you be more persistent in re-iterarting to him that you and him are done. If he is threatening you then inform the police.

I knowv this is frustrating and annoying to you. I wish you the best. Hopefully, you can apply some of this advice and things will get better.

You need to go to court and have visitation, child support and all that worked out so you can start enforcing boundaries and limits.