Hello,

I live in Oklahoma and I have a 9month old little boy. His father is on the birth certificate unfortunately because I thought that he would turn out to be a good dad. Although he does send money he is never involved in his son's life and neither is his family. My son's father is now dating a 20yr old with a kid, and he's almost 30, and they currently all live in Missouri. I really feel that since he or his family is really never involved in my son's life, then why should he carry the last name? My son is with my family here in Oklahoma and my family is very involved in his everyday life. I just feel that it would be in his best interest as he gets older to ultimately carry my last name, BUT his father I know won't consent to it because he's vein and too prideful, even though he's not even that involved in his son's life whatsoever.

What do I do in a situation like this? Please tell me there is some way to get this done? I have not even received my son's birth certificate from vital records yet, because I'm praying and hoping I can get this done. Any advice would be great.

Thank you.

Would the father agree to this? If he would, it is simply a matter of a few forms to sign and a small fee. To do it against his will is a potentially expensive court battle.

But honestly, you can call your child anything you want. Legal names only need to be used for official documents (school, medical etc)