I don't really know where to go to for advice anymore - obviously. I was dating this guy for 2 years, and the whole 2 years was pretty messed up I don't even know why I loved him so much. 1st off he's very good at realing someone in, and I fell hard for him fast and I'm not really like that, I like to think I use to be good at dating before I met him. Anyway I caught him cheating on me the 1st time, but I didn't have full evidence, and He would yell at me and turn it around on me saying I'm being stupid and crazy, but I'm not stupid when you see a girl that he was always texting right by me and I find a picture of her she sent him flashing her in a thong and I was pissed off and I didn't trust him, but I didn't want to leave him I loved him and I was living with him with nowhere to really go, and he was good at making me feel like wow he's going to really try this time and then somedays talk down on me so bad it was almost so controlling. Months went by and things were actually doing really good and then I finally got to talk to the girl and she even told me it happened and he still tried to denie it. I'm a bubbly happy person a lot but I've lost a lot of confidence because of him. I lost some of my best friends because of him because they never liked him and wish I didn't stick up for him. All I had left was him at one point and I was so depressed. Eventually I started getting back with my friends and things were going OK between me and him. Then a month after our 2 years he started being angry all the time and fighting with me, being a complete every time he come home from work and I'd always be the same us screaming at each other and me crying. Well he said he wanted me 2 break up with me and of course it made me really sad and he let me stay at his house while I was trying to find somewhere to go and my girlfriends came over and we were drinking and I was crying and he was taking my stuff and packing it for me like he was really excided I was moving out and my dad even got us a car but we had to put it in his name and I made him promise me that if something happened to us he would give it back to me, and he hasn't of course. So I left and it was hard, I felt really betrayed because he was the only one I'd keep forgiving because I loved him so much and he knew that and knew I would do anything he'd say and took total advantage to that. So My birthday was on new years and I had a party and my friend told me that he had a new girlfriend move in like 4 days after I left and she's from his work so something was going on again behind my back and its breaking my heart I've been trying to stay postitive I don't talk about him a lot anymore to my friends because you don't really know what to say when someone is balling about it and they know your hurt but they don't fully understand the hurt. So I just think... a lot and I can't stand it, its driving me crazy. I spend as much time as possible with my friends and try to iceskate as much as possible, I even had rebound sex but unfourtently it wasn't that good. I am in no mood to try another relationship soon, plus there isn't anyone I know I would want to date anyway. Ugh help

From the tone of your post, you actually do sound exhausted. This guy sounds like a jerk while you sound like you're great. That's really all you need to know. Forget about him. Of course it's going to be extremely hard, but the fact that he had another girl move in after only 4 days should tell you all you need to know. If someone can move on that fast, it just means that they never cared for you or loved you at all. Once this sinks in you'll feel so much better about things. But yeah, I feel for you. It is exhausting.

Well just realize the pain is temporary. Take all this as a learning experience and don't tolerate and be the doormat for someone like this again. Staying with him as long as you did was a mistake and I think you know that.

Like you said there was obviously something going on well before you broke up if he has a new woman moving in already... Be thankful that he is not your problem anymore, this poor girls in for the same ride you had to suffer through. This guy uses women and will never have a meaningful relationship.

Suggestions... Stay busy like you are, do things for yourself that make you happy, DON'T talk to this guy AT ALL (if he tries to contact you ignore it), try not to use alcohol as a crutch, and rebound sex usually doesn't have the result you want it to when you are heart broken... so stay away from that.

You are going to be OK, sucks to go through, believe me I know! But you will come out stronger and smarter on the other side and will be ready for a more meaningful relationship with someone who deserves you.

It sure can be exhausting... odd how something like this can physically hurt.

I know exactly how you feel my ex was the same way... a REALLY good manipulator and really good at realing a girl in and a week after we broke up he had a new girlfriend... and I know how completely draining it is... I think the thing that has helped me most is realizing that you just got to look out for number 1 now. Stay busy and don't think about what he says or does because its all just going to be confusin and conflicting you know? Get a lot of sleep and stay strong. And honestly right now I'm trying the whole single thing and being in a relationship with myself and its REALLY been helpful in healing... hopefully something I've said helps if you need to talk I'm here

I think we all have empathy for your situation, we know how it hurts, and will for a while. Your already learning what doesn't help, so stay out of thinking of a relationship to ease the pain, but do not isolate yourself, stick with the ice skating if that's what you like to do, but also try something new, to challenge you.

The process of dealing with emotional pain is slow, and requires time, but time flies when your having fun, even if its shopping for yourself, and doing some good things for just you.

Lay off the ice cream, and sweets, but get your toes done. Its about being good to yourself. Don't worry, indulge a little, don't you deserve it?

Sure you do!