okay so here's the deal guys.. im 17 yrs young and i have had two sexaul partners. The first one of which i lost my virginity to i never had an orgasm or came at all.. now im with another guy and i love him a lot and when we do have sex i enjoy it i never fake it but it seemslike i get dry fast and i really want to have an orgasm!! Sometimes i think there is something wrong with melol.. i never fingermyself i haven't so i don't know the beginning of an orgasm can be like.. jus need some help =]:rolleyes:

Firstly believe me, when you're about to have an orgasm you will know it ;)

A woman is more known to have an orgasm during oral sex, than actual intercourse.
Try that, play around with each other, and let him give you oral sex, and I can guarantee you will have an orgasm :D

thanks a lot for your help.. I hope I can try itsoon.. because unfortunately my guys ego is kind of down now since he has noticed that he can't get me to reach orgasm. . I see around the site that its actually a big topic that's discussed her. Many girls and their guys have problems in reaching orgasims.. which I think totally sucks, all my girlfriends braG about how great an orgasm is and I'm getting kind of jealous ! Lol =]

I totally agree with Krs,
Though perhaps your eagerness to achieve an orgasm, is in part, somewhat impairing your ability to actually achieve one. It seems like you are putting a good bit of pressure on yourself, taking on responsibility for both your own and your partner's emotional experiences and responses; at a time in which you should simply be giving in to and fully enjoying the moment. As you become increasingly aroused, you should be experiencing increased lubricity. Though there can be physiological causes of your tendency to dryness, it may simply be due to anxiety.
Oral pleasure will certainly give you a much more direct, and likely more intense, stimulation. I agree, you will likely reach an orgasm much more quickly and easily, and it will be a most rewarding experience for both of you.
Good luck. Take care. :)

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thanks alot for your help.. i hope i can try itsoon..because unfortunatly my guys ego is kinda down now since he has noticed that he can't get me to reach orgasim. .i see around the site that its actually a big topic thats discussed her. many girls and their guys have probelms in reaching orgasims..which i think totally sucks, all my girlfriends braG about how great an orgasim is and im getting kinda jealous ! lol =]

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Don't always believe what friends say about sex and orgasm ESPECIALLY if they are bragging about it.
I believe when people brag its because they want to look good to others.. meaning = they are exaggerating ;)

Everyone is different, everyone has different libido's and everyone reachs orgasm in different stages.

Just be patient and mainly relax.

Also talk to your guy.
Tell him what you would like him to do to you and vice-versa :p

Good Luck.
Im here to help if you need to talk

I love the answers you have gotten so far. Lubricity Thomas, new one on me, I love it!!

One thing that was not metioned though, are you on any medications, alcohol? There are many environmental factors that will lessen lubricity, these just being two of them.

And, yes, it is very common to stress yourself out of an orgasm.

Another excellent point. Thanks. :)

Also, It depends on the female as well. Everyone is different, just remember to remain open with your partner, and one thing that can completely ruin it for you during your sexual play is thinking about "you innability to orgasm". I have done this once or twice. If you begin to think about other things or your fear of not being able to orgasm it will ruin your sexual experience.

Just think about the moment. Think about him and your bodies nothing else. And tell him to move slowly and there has to be some pleasuring involved prior to penatration because it will only intensify your orgasm.

Heyy..

I seem to have the same problem! I've been having sex with my boyfriend for over 2 years.. and yes I love the sex and I do orgasm, he asks me sometimes during sex if I did orgasm.. and the thing is.. I duno if I did! I can't feel the beginnin of it.. unlike him.. he knows that he is about to ***, do you know what I mean? Is this normal for girls?

What you need to do is when you are alone. Start fingering yourself. Learn how to bring yourself to orgasm. Then once you learn different teckniques of bringing yourself to orgasm. That will help your boyfriend. Each women is different and get orgasms differently. The trick is to learn your own body then you will be able to teach the guy how to please you and make you feel good. Lots of guys get bad raps for not knowing but how are we suppose to know your body when you do not even know yours yourself. As far as getting dry, and I bet you get sore. There are lubricants out there that you could use to keep you moist. Try it out. Have fun, and enjoy.

Joe

My girlfriend and I have the getting dry quickley problem as well. I've even tried putting on (lubricated) condom after condom trying to keep it moist, but nothing works. Does this mean she isn't having "fun"? Or is it natural?

You Must Learn How To Masturbate. I Spent My Senior Year Of High school Learning How To Masturbate... It's a Good Thing I Did. You Must Be Comfortable With Your Body, And Know What You Like. Go To The Drugstore Buy Some Lube, Go Home Lock Yourself In Your Bedroom And Close Your Eyes Touch Yourself Lightly And Don't Forget The Clitoris. Remember That There Are A lot Of Sensitive Nerves Around The Vaginal Opening Not Shoved All The Way Inside, That Is A Mans Misconception

Buy a vibrator and use it. You have to know what pleases you to be able to get where you need to be. Also ky warming liquid works well with the vibrator. I used to think people who used those were weird until I tried it. I never knew what I was missing. You will learn more about yourself with age. Don't worry.

I agree with what others have said: Start masturbating! Explore your body, with and without your boyfriend. Relax! The more you concentrate on having an orgasm, the more it will elude you.

This said, let me tell you that most women (70% according to studies) are unable to achieve orgasm from vaginal penetration alone. They need direct stimulation of the clitoris in order to climax. Since the clitoris is located outside the vaginal opening, it is difficult to stimulate during vaginal intercourse.

You can experiment with different positions (for example you on top), but most importantly, you should learn what gives you pleasure.

Have fun! :)

I agree with pretty much everything said above, and would also stress you to use a waterbased lubricant. Many brands offer formulas that increase stimulation on top of making intercourse more comfortable... it's a win-win situation when using lube!

Deff. Try having sex with you ontop.

It's very difficult for my girlfriend to orgasm with me on top. It's possible, but as others have said there is very little stimulating the clitoris in this position - when she's on top she can grind in and out and against me exactly how she likes it. Try it and find out what works for you. Always have some sort of foreplay though. There's nothing I enjoy more than giving my girlfriend oral sex and watching her face while I do it - only for us to have sex after and both orgasm simultaneously.

You will get there don't worry about that I had the very same problem its just patience and eeperience try playing with yourself while having sex to boost it .