I am a 42 year old female and always thought I was quite a strong person but for the last 4 years I have regularly found myself crying over the most stupid things - A sad song on the radio - or just someone being nice to me - Is there anything I can do?

Depression ? You do not give much about yourself away to know how to advise x

You may want to talk to a counseler, but try to find the reason behind the emotion. Try to be aware of your thoughts when you feel up set, and see if you find any triggers. Not like external stimulation I mean strange thoughts and that kind of thing.

You could be happy, or sad, or emotionally unstable. I'm not saying your crazy, but just have a mood disorder. Maybe a mild one? But talk to the counseler sista.

Could be hormons, or change in diet, or even that you have been suppressing things for so long they are coming out like this. Try to think of your past and double check to make sure you're not hurting from it. If not there, Im not sure.

Really we don't have a lot to go on, but I hope you get better soon.

Peace and kindness.

OK - I am the mother of a 21 year old who is in the army - I have always had this problem usually when people / family are nice to me. I know that sounds weird but its true - I changed jobs 4 years ago and my job now is very stressfull - and if I do something wrong (unintentionally) and get told off -m I just burst into tears - I am a joker normally and see the best in everyone - I have money worries, but who doesn't ?

Ok hun I think your best bet would be go to visit a GP you trust.

I have suffered with depression for 12 years on and off ad is nothing to be ashamed of , even if it is just to rule it out.

Do you have close friends you could confide in ?

I too am quite an emotional person and will cry at weddings or funerals on the TV !

Being the joker is what triggered it for me - those who are the loudest and funniest are usually the ones who feel low inside that they put on a front.

As for finances the CAB are great at advise and free.

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OK - I am the mother of a 21 year old who is in the army - I have always had this problem usually when people / family are nice to me. I know that sounds weird but its true - I changed jobs 4 years ago and my job now is very stressfull - and if I do something wrong (unintentionally) and get told off -m I just burst into tears - I am a joker normally and see the best in everyone - I have money worries, but who doesn't ?

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I feel the same way you do sometimes. My 20 year old is now deployed in Iraq. I find comfort in the fact that we keep touch through Yahoo IM.

Do you have the option of finding another job? What you are going through is cruel punishment on the job. Been there done that myself over 10 years ago.

I'm here to support you through thick and thin.

I wonder if the change of job was the trigger! You say you've been crying on and off for the last four years which was the time that you say you changed your job, also that you regularly get... TOLD OFF.. in this job, sounds like it's worn you down, I think it's gradually ground you down so that any little thing will start you off.

Did your daughter also join the army at this time, was she posted away ? If this was the case this also could be an underlying factor.

I think you should look for other employment and speak to your daughter as much as possible, also your sleeping patern is probably affected... go and see your GP who will give you something to get you through this difficult patch this will make you stronger again in body and soul.

Takecare

I do appreciate all of your comments and all of them do make sense - Its not so easy to change jobs with the current climate - So I will just have to 'weather the storm' - Its good to share how I am feeling - thank you all

Honey, at 42, your feelings are not that uncommon. Please speak with your physician or gyn. Hormones and an antidepressant are probably just the ticket. You don't necessarily "feel sad" when you are depressed and a change in hormone level at pre-menapause can cause the episodes of crying.

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