:( I slept with someone I have been seeing and only slept together once. He was very adventurous... more than I thought and it was very exciting and wonderful... it was the bonus of everything I have been looking for with a partner... however organsim didn't come easily or not at all.. it felt like I had one but was dry and it became fustrating and embarrassing... as I am as adventerous as he was... also during masturbation I know about other woman being able to spray and I can not... I would like to know what the possibilities are as to why I can't have the same kind of pleasure as the rest of the woman out in the world... not to mention my girlfriend is always talking about her sexual interludes... im so upset that their could be something wrong with me... what kind of things can I do to turn this around... help... :(

You know, girl, you can be very "adventurous" and engage in all kinds of kinky sex, BUT that is not what really appeals to young girls like yourself. :) In addition, don't get your sex education from folks who got their "education" from porn.

My opinion is that you need to talk to a sex therapist so you can get to know your own sexuality.

Best wishes, :)

As for spraying (sometimes called squirting) from my personal experience it is fairly rare amongst women. I've only had one woman in my life who squirted and it was a new experience for her, she described it as happening because I hit her G-Spot. I wouldn't fret over this aspect of sex.

Use your imagination, get to know your body; and your bodies response will get better over time. Remember the brain is your largest sex organ and it takes a while to get the brain and body working together.

Also as for performance, if you are in a relatively new relationship, performance issues are common as we are vulnerable and we are learning to trust the other person, so it's difficult to be just in the moment. Even if you feel your are consciously there and nothing is bothering you, subconsciously you may still be anxious about things.

Relax and have fun the best you can, time and experience either solo or with a partner will make things better for you.

Preparation is very important prior to your activity. Get yourself in the right mood as well as your partner. It is very important to note that every move is well calculated. When you reach a certain stage during penetration, focus on your sensation. Free yourself from other inhibitions. Let your partner embark on his journey likewise you create your own hemisphere during that intense moment. Imagine things you feel you should be during that tense period although it is just a fantasy. When you almost reach the point of no return, burst it out without inhibitions!

Get to know your body more. Focus on what exactly feels good and try to keep doing over and over.

I've sprayed only one time and it was during masturbation. I was orgasming and I just continued to make myself orgasm for about 45 seconds until I just couldn't take it anymore and then... I sprayed. You should try it.

Hope this helps!