Ask Me Help Desk - Photography student

Hi am supposed to start my 2 year photography course in a few days and I am really excited I can't wait. Problem is the only campus is 1200km away from home. I am 20 years old and the only child so my parents are not keen. They are afraid that I will fail to survive on a waiters income. I also can not find a place to stay close enough to campus,I do not have a drivers license so that is also a problem. I was looking forward to the experience but my parents robbed me of that with all the worries and insecurities. My boyfriend stays close to campus and we have been in this long distance relationship for a year. They think that this has a lot to do with him but it doesn't, this has been my dream for 12 years. I am really good at what I do and would just like to have something to show people when they ask me if I am professional.

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Originally Posted by BiaBinta

Hi am supposed to start my 2 year photography course in a few days and i am really excited i can't wait. Problem is the only campus is 1200km away from home. I am 20 years old and the only child so my parents are not keen. They are afraid that i will fail to survive on a waiters income. I also can not find a place to stay close enough to campus,i do not have a drivers license so that is also a problem. I was looking forward to the experience but my parents robbed me of that with all the worries and insecurities. My boyfriend stays close to campus and we have been in this long distance relationship for a year. They think that this has a lot to do with him but it doesn't, this has been my dream for 12 years. I am really good at what i do and would just like to have something to show people when they ask me if i am professional.

Many students survive just fine on a waiter's income, as long as the tuition isn't too expensive. (If your tuition is expensive, apply for grants and loans!) For inexpensive transportation, get an inexpensive (used) bike and a good backpack to carry your books (and camera). Once you start classes you may also find a classmate who lives closer to campus who needs a room-mate and be able to move closer to campus.

After you start school, check in with a school counselor. Explain your parents worries and ask the counselor for advice on how to proceed, what steps and cautions you should take to help ensure success. If possible, make regular appointments to check in with the counselor during your first semester. This will help you gain confidence that you are on track, and you can use your counselor's advice to help answer your parents and soothe their worries.

You didn't say where you are located, I might be able to give more tips if I know where you are going to school.

Good luck with the photography!

I will be attending Vega communications college in Cape Town and am from North-West. I have a car and a friend with a license who wants to go with me for work and he will drive me to and from campus. My parents don't want to give us the car as he is 26 and they do not know him. They also think I will drive around with the car but I am not irresponsible and know what will happen if I do.

They say if he gets in to trouble with the car that is in my dads ame my dad will have to take the blame in court and pay the damages.

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Originally Posted by BiaBinta

I will be attending Vega communications college in Cape Town and am from North-West. I have a car and a friend with a license who wants to go with me for work and he will drive me to and from campus. My parents dont want to give us the car as he is 26 and they do not know him. They also think i will drive around with the car but I am not irresponsible and know what will happen if I do.

They say if he gets in to trouble with the car that is in my dads ame my dad will have to take the blame in court and pay the damages.

This car problem really isn't a photography problem, but I do see your parent's point of view here. They don't know this man, and so they don't want to let him drive their car. Since you aren't a licensed driver they are not convinced you would be entirely impartial if there's an issue where he shouldn't be driving. I have a friend with a teenage daughter who made some very poor choices with an older friend and letting him drive her car. Her father was NOT happy. They were all very lucky that no one was charged with a crime due to how things worked out. She (the daughter) had to spend 2 days in the custody of Child Protective Services due to the incident that occurred when the young man drove her and her car. Can you see why your parents are concerned?

I suggest you look harder at finding housing closer to campus or use a bicycle for your transportation. You are trying to fight too many battles all at once here - your parents don't want you going off to college, they worry about how you will support yourself, and they don't want to have an unknown young man driving their car.

Pick your battles - what is more important, going to school or having this person drive your parent's car? You may ruin the whole thing by pushing too hard on the car issue. If you *really* want to be a photographer you won't risk it all over this disagreement with your parents about the car.