How to limit groom's family guest list and two receptions
We are hosting a wedding in Philadelphia for our daughter. The groom's family is from Iowa. The week after our Philadelphia wedding August 14, the groom's family is hosting a barbecue style reception for 300 - a down home affair for a few thousand dollars. Our affair is more formal and at their request is in a downtown Philadelphia hotel. They want to experience historic Philadelphia ( we live ine the suburbs and would save a ton of money if we held it near our home). We were planning an affair of 150-180 guests at the most. The reception alone is in the $25000-30000 range. We have limited our list to immediate family and close friends to about 85-90 and we want to split the rest with our daughter, future son-in-law and his family. His mother is insisting that both invitations go in one envelope and that their 300 guests are invited to the Philadelphia wedding. I think that is absolutely ridiculous as we cannot host their 300 people and they are having their own reception a week later. We have no say about their reception. They have not offered to pay for their guests in Philadelphia because they are hosting their own reception in Iowa. What do we do!! HELP!! Barb