I am 17 and my sister is pregent she is unable to keep the child and we and I want it to stay in the family, she will have the baby before I turn 18. What I could I do to still adopt this child. I have put a lot of thought into this and I really ant to look into it more and know the facts. Can I apodt this child? What will I have to do to be able to do this? :confused:

What does the father to this child say about it, he will have to sign his rights over to allow you to adopt.

But you can't till you are 18 and the court will want to see that you can afford to keep the child.

But I don't see a issue as long as the father does not care, to let the child stay with you, after that you can show the court you were a good mother

Your sister's b aby can still stay in the family. It is her baby, she can raise the child without you adopting.

She is your sister and presumably on good terms with you. Why don't you just raise her as your child. There is no pressing need for adoption. It is easy enough to get guardianship.

They won't let you adopt the child until you are over 18 and prove you can provide for him/her.

I doubt youi can get guardianship when you are under 18 either.

The question for you is this: Does your SISTER want the child to stay in the family, or is it just you and the rest of the family that feels that way? I know that when I was pregnant and had decided on adoption that every single member of my family approached me about adopting the child from me.

I could NOT have handled that.

In choosing adoption, I needed the child to NOT be around me all of the time in order for ME to be able to deal with the whole situation.

I have a feeling that your sister has chosen adoption, and that you want to keep HER baby with you, something that I'm sure that more mature members of your family (like your parents) have already offered.

So... we need more of the situation to give you valid advice here.

It is difficult to make any kind of supportive comment on this situation, because the information is sketchy to say the least. Sketchy for such a situation like this. Everyone of us probably had a different take on this, trying to read between the lines and figure it out. Not a good option.

I think we need more information on how the mother-to-be feels about having this baby.

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Originally Posted by sportschick697

I am 17 and my sister is pregent she is unable to keep the child and we and i want it to stay in the family, she will have the baby before i turn 18. What i could i do to still adopt this child. I have put alot of thought into this and I really ant to look into it more and know the facts. Can i apodt this child? What will i have to do to be able to do this? :confused:

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I have talked to my sister and she wants to keep it but just can't I asked her if it would phase her as me rasing her child and she said she was not sure and would have to think about it. The dad is no longer with her and wants nothing to do with this child. So I could raise this child without adopting it? I just want to make sure I am able to do this before we talk too much about it?

How can you afford a child?

Do you have a job? Insurance? Plans for college? Savings? Your own dwelling (meaning--do you still live with your parents)? Are you perfectly capable of raising this child WITHOUT any state aid--no food stamps, no section 8 housing, no welfare payments? Because if you can't do ALL of that, the state is NOT going to let you adopt.

As far as becoming a guardian of the child without adopting--you'd need to talk with a lawyer. Again, if you can't afford a lawyer, you probably shouldn't be contemplating raising a child. The latter is infinitely more expensive than the former.

Is your sister younger or older than you are? Does she know who the father is? What are HER reasons for not being able to raise the child?

Hi sportschick, do you and your sis ter live with a complete supportive family, your mother and father. If so, has the whole family sat down and discussed this pregnancy with your sister. Is she younger then you are ?

You still haven't told us very much about the situation, only tidbits here and there. I know of a few 'whole supportive' families who have come to together to help out in this situation and usually it is the mother of the daughter who wants to raise the baby. You however, have not mentioned your mom.