Hey. My boyfriend and me live together and I love him with everything that I have. I'm 21 years old. But... it's not always so peachy. We argue a lot, but it's because we're both so frustrated with working long houred jobs and lack of sleep stress with money, blah blah, the point is... I have never been such an angry person and now I get SO-O mad about almost absolutely everything. I don't mean to be so jealous but if he talks to my sister the wrong way I get suspicious. I've been hurt so many times in the past, I just am dreading this happening again. How can I stop being so jealous and insecure, and maybe even a little less angry for nothing? I just feel like I WANT to fight sometimes. HELP! I don't want to lose what I love.:(

Frustration gets you like that, trust me been there, done that many times. Being tired has a lot to do with it also, but you have to realize that building a bond with some honest communications, will help you both to know when to back up, and argue in a manner that is better for the emotional level of the relationship.

Most couples are just venting which needs no comment, or commentary, or opinions and solutions, just know when to shut up, and listen, and some space to relieve the frustrations outside the relationship. Your young, and learning these things, and how to cope with those feelings, so get your rest, and learn how, and when to relax, so you can listen as well as vent. This goes for you both.

How long have you been living together, and how long did you date before moving in?

Living together with a stranger who you are learning about, is a stress in itself, and that cuts both ways, so just be good to yourself, and each other.

We've only been living together for about 2 months now, but prior to that we basically lived together for 8 months. We've been dating almost a year now. I know it's not that long, but if you could see us together out or something, and even in, we were like, meant for each other. Except that whole insecurity thing. He's the same way, but gets mad when I'm that way back. It drives me insane how jealous I am.