I'm 27, and from time to time I have erotic phantasies about good-looking and fit men (women also) but I don't like to do it with men, sexually speaking. This happens mostly when I see them in the distance, especially in underwear. And I am equally aroused when I watch heterosexual or gay porn though this is rare.

Do you suggest that I should experiment with males just for some time and see what happens? Presently, I'm not dating any girl. Even with them hasn't been so easy due to these phantasies

Is it just phantasy? Is it gay porn another reason? Or is it just fetish? Is it also I feel somewhat inferior to this group of males just because I'm not in shape like them(though I'm quite tall)?

Thank you for any tips provided.

Probibly just a fantasy based on what you have said. Thinking about something is many times far different from actually doing it. You expressed you don't like to do it with men, so that's your cue... don't experiment.

You can't compare yourself to others... there will always be someone in better shape, longer tool, etc...

Best you can do is make the most of what you are blessed with. And be your own person.

Just wondering where you see all these men at a distance in just their underwear ? Good telescope?

But a fantasy is often just that, often it is just a sexual release and has nothing to do with reality

Men whom I have talked to always knew they were gay from childhood.
Were you attracted to men in a sexual way in childhood?
Have you ever had a relationship with a woman?
Are you a member of a religion that teaches sexual repression?

To be honest, you are "old" at 27 not to have resolved the question of your sexuality. Not to have had sexual experience.

You can act "available" in the health club to see if you attract anyone. I think that you wouldn't be able to handle that, though. Reality is totally different from a fantasy world.

Do you have any friends, either sex?

Actually, as a teenager I had somehow this erotic male fantasy which has been on the decrease ever since, though not disappeared altogether. I have been in relationship with girls but I have always wanted something serious with them.

If I weren't confused myself about my sexuality I wouldn't ask for your help. I have nothing to do with that religious group.

Thank you.