I met this guy he's my best friends brother and I think he likes me a lot he walked over 2 hours just 2 see me and we hooked up one night when we were drunk but had no sexual contact because he said that he just wanted to hold me!he glazes in my eyes all the time,stares at me until he can't see me the only thing is that I have a boyfriend my feelings all changed when I met this guy I changed he's all I think about I even dream of him I also have a child that I think of also that is why I'm letting reality make my choices instead of my heart I also wanted to know if this could be love?

Hi, shy shy!

How many times have you met this guy? It's more likely a crush and not true love if it's been only once or even a few times. It takes a long time to really develop a deep sense of love for and with someone.

How do you feel about your present boyfriend, please?

Thanks!

Well this guy I'm presently with used to hit me all the time and I never felt the same again there is a feeling inside of me that suffecates me everyday I spent my whole summer with this guy he made me feel completely different and I know he liked me to becusar he told his sister but I'm just scared I'm scared to let someone have feelings for me because my current boyfriend makes me feel so ugly and bad but I always think that this guy loves me and its bad for the one I'm attracted to have feelings for me I just never took the next step because I'm scared something that beautiful can really like me I don't know what to do

I think that you should go with that which you feel the most comfortable and secure. If someone is hitting you, that's not love.

I would also suggest taking a chance on a relationship that might lead to something good rather than one that seems to be headed downhill.

Thanks!

Its not love if your in an abusive relationship, and have not moved out.

If your in doubt, give it a lot of time and thought, and don't assume because of the intense feelings your in love. Take your time, as what's the hurry?

I strongly suggest you get your home life straight rather than continue to cheat, even though he was an abuser, jumping from one guy to the next, without resolving your issues, is a disaster waiting to happen.

Take care of home first.

Well my baby dad I have Been with for six years but too much has happened for me to love him the same.he makes me feel ugly and the only reson why I stay with him is because I don't want to hurt him and for the sake of my son after all I'm only nineteen and I'm sick of feeling like ukm forty but I don't want to fail as a mother or a companion I just don't understand what is going on or why I feel this way

You two have been together since you were 12?

I'm sure you've developed a strong line of communication?

Have you discussed this with him?

You need to draw attention to his behavior.

He's always right I'm always wrong it's the same old thing over and over again just a different day at first I used to think that he was cheating on me why he said things and acted the way he did but it seems I always do everything wrong that is why when I meet someone else they make me feel a lot Better then the person who says he loves me. I can't remember the last time I was happy or was aloud to be happy but I wish I could be happy with him but I just don't know what to feel or say anymore I feel isolated from the person I feel inside he says he loves me but his actions say that he doesn't

If you are not happy, then why are you with him?

Because I know he won't be nothing with out me and even though he hurt I can't hurt him like that he went to jail for hitting me also and I think that made him hate me I don't like the fact that he won't be there because I've never been alone but I will pay more attention to him maybe even try and spice up the suace a little just jokes I'm happy with my family I just can't be who I want to

Abuse is a deal breaker.

Leave him. Clearly, this man has problems and needs to address them.

You don't want to hurt him or your child but your unhappiness is hurting everyone.

A sad mother is not a good mother,no matter how hard you try your child is feeling your pain.

Really,you may be doing all of the good mother things but your sadness is there and you can't pretend it isn't and you can't fake it.
Your child gets it and your child feels your pain,no matter how much you try to hide it.

I know this to be true,from experience and please pay attention..

You were a mother too early and now you have a choice.

Hopefully you have a family that can help you to get on your feet and be independent.

You need to be your own person and strike out on your own.You can be a Mom and do that .is is hard? Hell you but you are a strong woman and you can do it!

Us women are the toughest and the bravest and we can do anything

Have faith in yourself and know that you are strong and real and you do not need a man .

Peace sister and be strong!

Thanks a lot it feels so good to connect with someone who understands I believe in every word you said but its just that I have no one and I have to build a life for myself and my baby thanks I feel a lot better Holla

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This is a confusing time for you, and until you stop being taken for granted, by worrying about others, and not yourself, this confusion will continue.

You have already started to stray from him, so maybe its time to cut all the links cleanly, and get yourself together.