I have a hard time coming out of my shell. When I'm writing (like posting on this website, or writing in my notebook) or talking with my friends, I can share all of my feelings freely, say as much as I want without feeling like I need to hide, but there are times, like when I'm talking to other people in my classes I wouldn't normally talk to, I am very self-conscious and I hide my feelings, like a hermit crab hides in its shell. There are times I don't even talk, at the school dance nights (at school it's called teen can teen, tct for short) like teens' night out, or parties with my friends, I'm too self-conscious to dance! I know I need to loosen up a little but I need some tips on how to open up to people a little more, I'm just too shy for my own good, and I hold everything in and if I get upset enough it all comes pouring out, I need some help, I am too shy!!

Think about how you act when you are with friends or writing in your notebook, if you apply that to how you could act in front of other people then you might open up a little more. I'm not saying let your emotions pour out of you like a blubbering slob, just slowly work up a friendship with most of the people in your class and soon you will be able to talk to anyone without having the feeling that you are to shy.

Hi, THEpurplepeanut!

I'm equally as self-conscious about dancing! Don't like to do it at all!

You've already had a major success that you told to me with getting first chair in your section of the band!

Great job! :)

How about sharing some other things that you're good at?

One thing that I'd like to know, is have you ever written down lyrics that you might like to have put to music?

Thanks!

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Originally Posted by Clough

Hi, THEpurplepeanut!

I'm equally as self-conscious about dancing! Don't like to do it at all!

You've already had a major success that you told to me with getting first chair in your section of the band!

Great job! :)

How about sharing some other things that you're good at?

One thing that I'd like to know, is have you ever written down lyrics that you might like to have put to music?

Thanks!

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Yes I have but I don't like to share my singing "talent" with the world, I'm just too good ;) lol, well singing isn't really what I like to do, but I do like drawing and painting, I'm a teacher's pet in art class :p, I also like poetry, and reading too, lol I like slow dancing ;) and of course I like playing the trombone and jazz music, I'm working on a new project... a candy wrapper purse, which falls under art, I'm also working on an oil painting. Well enough about me, how are you Clough?

What I'm wondering is, is if you might like write the lyrics to a song and then I could show you how to set them to music. Such a thing was done on the following thread and the person who asked the question was about your age.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/writin...ng-267729.html

If you do that sort of thing, it could help to build your self-esteem and help to make you feel good about yourself!

Please let me know if you would like to do that. If not, then that's okay.

There are also a number of folks around here who are into the visual arts of various kinds. We had quite a community going about a year ago. It would be nice to get it going again.

If you would like to know how to get involved in that, please let me know.

I'm fine, by the way...

Thanks!

To be honest I am the same way but if you have ever tried putting yourself out there then it feels great. You feel like you are just stepping out and seeing yourself in a whole new light
If this is too sudden then try to ease into things by saying hi in the halls to people you normally wouldn't talk to
If you try to make other people feel comfortable then you will end up feeling better yourself

Well, it seems that you are just self-concious around people you don't know.
Obviously, when you know someone you can open up.
Just start introducing yourself to more people, and just all around getting to know people around more, and I'm sure that you'll start opening up more. The more people you know, the more you can open up to.

What helped me get past my ultra shyness was getting a job. I was 16 and still really awkward. I don't know how old you are but, that's what got me through it.

My mom always told me something that really worked! When you go to talk to someone, don't think about yourself at all. Just think about that person and what they want to hear. It really worked for me. But then again. Everyone is different.

Hey, you like art too? You can try doodling a little in a crowded area. That's always proven to catch attention of people and it got me a lot of friends in middle school. That and writing.

Hope I could help some. Cheers!