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  • Jan 14, 2009, 10:16 PM
    Pheniox01
    The girl that I like is thinking of moving in with her ex.
    Does anyone believe in signs? Either a show comes on with the similar situation that you are in, fortune cookie, something that keeps reminding you about a certain person etc... do you think you should act on the signs or follow what your heart feels?

    Thanks pheniox01
  • Jan 14, 2009, 10:45 PM
    BlackVY

    Well what's her reason for moving back in with her ex if she knows it's a bad idea?

    Right now, you are not in a position to stop her, and its her decision to make... even if it's a mistake...

    But you can be there for her as a friend and maybe talk to her about the pros and cons of what she is deciding to do, but the final decision is hers...

    Good luck...
  • Jan 14, 2009, 10:49 PM
    Clough

    Hi, Pheniox01!

    If you would tell her about the way that you feel toward her, then she might have second thoughts about moving back in with her ex. So, my advice would be to tell her and see what happens.

    Just a thought for you...

    Thanks!
  • Jan 14, 2009, 10:53 PM
    SimpleguyJoe

    Well here is something for you. If you want something to happen with this you have to be a little aggressive. It's you or the Ex. Once your truly in the "just friends" position your in it for a long while, if not forever. So if you want her let her know. Reinforce the idea that what she is doing is kind of dumb and you have to be a little biased to the ex. Honestly I don't like this approach AT ALL but whatever floats your boat.

    Or you could stay in touch but pull pack a little and give her space. That will avoid her catagorizing you as JUST a friend because she won't know you well enough. Then if things go south with the ex and I can pretty much say with confidence that they will go south quite quickly. You can be there to help her through it. But again that just makes you the rebound guy. Seems like a lose/lose situation at the moment.

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