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  • Jan 14, 2009, 04:54 PM
    ineedurhelp
    IF u break up and then make up,will it still work?
    Ifu break up after a 1 year realtion cause your partner cheated on you and after a while you make up with him,will the relation still work?
  • Jan 14, 2009, 04:58 PM
    411Help

    Probably not.

    Especially after adultery has been committed.

    You need to realize that he's no good for you. Why try to fix something with someone that disrespected you when you can start something new with someone that will respect you.
  • Jan 14, 2009, 05:06 PM
    nike 1
    If both of you are serious and have totally dealt with all the issues and are both committed to making it work, then yes it can. Many relationships can suffer extreme damage but if the two people realize that they still love each other, chances are good that they would not want to make the same mistakes. But if it does happen again, be done with it. Until then, ask yourself if you are really willing to forgive and let it in the past, both personally and with him.
  • Jan 14, 2009, 05:35 PM
    Romefalls19

    Only if you are willing to put the past behind you. Face the problems you had in the old relationship and solve them, then move on! It's a pressing task and will take a lot of work but not impossible if the relationship is confronted in the right way
  • Jan 14, 2009, 06:00 PM
    kctiger

    It takes a lot. I have been a HUGE proponent of this. I did this. We broke up, got back together about a month later. It was awesome, but nothing had changed. You HAVE to change the problems that caused the break up, otherwise, they will rear their ugly head at some point. I think if a couple breaks up, then only if they break up for a prolonged period, will it work if they get back together. It takes a lot of change, and nothing can change overnight. You are talking about things that are hardwired into your character or personality, and you really have to change yourself (for the better) for anything to ever change when you get back together. That type of change takes a long period, and a big willingness and commitment towards bettering yourself.

    I know a lot of people on this board will call me an idiot, but I am not feeding you a line of crap. Yes, you can make it work if you get back together. But, it starts with you, and learning about yourself. If if didn't work out, it was for a reason, and until you find that reason, it will NEVER work out. If it is meant to be, it will be, period.
  • Jan 14, 2009, 06:08 PM
    talaniman

    If the hard work to make it work is done by both partners... yes, it can work.

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