OK when you like a 17 year old... and your 14.. -k-

So when you want to step up to his maturity level how exactly do you do it?

Which he doesn't, how do you convince him to think you are not imature and you are mature enough to be with him?

--btw: if a friend of yours which is a friend of his to, (but you know him better) and she asks him to give you a hug and he says " she will have to come and give me one" what exactly does that mean does it even mean anything?


Please help with these questions!! :confused:

Well you should act like yourself first of all there is no need to be older if you don't have to. When you turn 40 you'll understand that one!
About the hug thing, well it's self explainitaury.

You can't fake maturity and you'll just make yourself look younger if you try.

I don't understand the second part of the question, did the friend ask him to give you a hug but he replied, "She'll have to come and give me one."

If that is the case it sounds like he's not interested, but it is hard to tell with such limited information.

If you are not compatible, for whatever reason (such as maturity) it's just not going to happen. You are both at different life stages.

When you say maturity what do you mean exactly? The way you react around him or the things he does that you don't?
To me maturity is an issue when the people are rughly at the same age but most 17 year old maturity level would be shown in what they want from you or another girl. All the 17 year old guys I know are interested in sex, smoking, bullying and cheating so in my opinion you have to make sure you know what you mean by maturity before you get in a bad situation. Don't jump into anything unless you know you can get out of it - fast. And to me if you wand to meet a guy that is like you or compatible you need to focus on what you enjoy doing and make sure that you don't have to change the way you are for a guy, especially if you don't know everything you can. I would ask girls he has been out with what he was like... that is if they will speak with you. Be confident and be yourself then if he thinks your childish then you have to accpet that but really people do more stupid things as they get older until their late twenties... all just my opinion but try not to jump into anything. Hope this helps.

Sorry about the bad English and spelling mistakes :(

Its all right!:D,
And maturity levels, like do u think a girl being 14 would be able to step up and not act childish for a 17 yr old boy?

Be yourself, personality can over rule age. If anything rememeber this: girls mature faster than guys. Smile, stay classy, and just do you_ I'm sure he's interested, turn that interest into like.

Your both teens. That puts you in the same age "group".

Well first most 17 are not going to be looking at or wanting a 14 year old for a girl friend if that is what you are looking for.

And to be honest at 14 you should not have enough in common or even be allowed to by your parents, to be with a 17 year old

I don't know Chuck. I tend to agree, but it's only three years. Not so uncommon. In fact, I recall when I was in high school, I knew of a lot of other kids who had girl/boyfriends still in middle school.

98 times out of 100 these are just puppy love things anyway, as long as they aren't talking marriage or anything, I don't see the harm in it.

In answer to your question I think most 14 year olds make asmany silly mistakes as 17 year olds but they tend toget worse as they got older or more "mature". Many off my friends are 13 - 15 and they are all a lot more mature than he 17 year olds I know. I agree with andrew... if its harmless its harmless but I don't think it comes down to right or wrong to a 17 year old... its more lie what feels good.

I think that you should just be yourself, and not push yourself on him. If he comes to you that means he likes you for who you are, not necessarily (sorry for spelling) as a girlfriend, but you never know what it could turn into. And who knows, maybe the more time you spend with him, the more you realize that you don't like him like that. But most importantly, be yourself, your maturity level, and if that's not good enough for him, forget him.

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Originally Posted by Chin-Chee

ok when you like a 17 year old...and ur 14..-k-

so when u want to step up to his maturity level how exactly do u do it?

which he doesn't, how do u convince him to think you are not imature and you are mature enough to be with him??

--btw: if a friend of yours which is a friend of his to, (but u know him better) and she asks him to give you a hug and he says " she will have to come and give me one" what exactly does that mean does it even mean anything??


please help with these questions!!!!:confused:

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I agree with what other people have said. In fact you have said enough in your answer to know that you are not mature enough for a real relationship. You don't step up levels of maturity, its like trying to increase the amount iron in your blood by thinking about it. It's never going to happen.

That 'btw' aswell: unfortunately if this boy has any maturity himself he will have seen that if you need to talk to him through a friend to try to set up a show of affection then you are DEFINITELY not mature enough to enter into a relationship.

I know this might seem a little harsh, but really it is the truth and when someone goes into a relationship with doubts about their validity or self worth it is quite likely they will spend the entire relationship trying to prove themselves and a) not enjoying themselves and b) possibly making some decisions they will highly regret later.

Stop trying to be something your not. Just be yourself, people are their most attractive when they know who they are and are comfortable with that person.

Hope this helps.

Chin-chee, you shouldn't act different. If you want a guy to like you, then wouldn't you want him to like you for who you are? I would. Just try finding out what he likes. (that doesn't mean stalking him either.) does he flirt with you? Do you have any classes with him? It all depends on how you act.