All right so here goes... this is a bit long but I want you to have the details, also ask for more if you need them
My girlfriend and I started dating around September time frame, I had just gotten out of a long relationship in early June so I was dating around still and wasn't ready to commit to just anyone yet... we kind of stopped dating for a month due to mostly my inability to commit to her etc... fast forward to mid nov, she find out I went on a couple dates with someone else and she told me how she wants to continue pursuing things with me and how it hurt her so much knowing that I was going out with someone else etc... so I decided to give it a go, early December we decided to make it official, we are exclusive gf/bf
Everything has been going well, I still have a hard time reading her sometimes but when she opens up she is amazing and she has really started getting to me, I think about her all the time and get excited to see her, etc... a way that I have never really felt, either that or it has been so long that I forgot about it...
Rewind to before we started dating, she had been going to physical therapy for awhile and built up a friendly relationship with the doctor (who is around our age), according to what she has told me this guy really has the hots for her, and constantly complains to her about his girlfriend who he doesn't seem to care for, he has even gone as far as asking her to do stuff on the side with him, so yes he is ready to cheat on his girlfriend with my who is now my girlfriend... and to top it off she has told me that she thinks he is hot as well (I asked her awhile ago while we were just casually dating if he was)
Since then she has finished physical therapy for that reason but is now going back for another reason... she went in out of the blue one day last week to see him and the other guy that works there and ended up going to lunch with said guy, lets call him joe... she openly told me this that evening and also mentioned that joe invited her to a house party that weekend, this made me uncomfortable but I didn't want to mention it just yet as it was early in the week... turns out joe never got back to her about the party and she didn't go so I was relieved I hadn't mentioned how I felt and didn't make an issue out of it...
So yesterday she got the script to go to physical therapy from her chiro, she told me how she asked the receptionist if she could go to the same place she went before, the receptionist asked her "sounds like you have a crush on this doctor?" and she laughed and said it doesn't matter he has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend (yes she openly told me this, I didn't ask for any detail) leaves me feeling like, what the hell? That makes me think you'd want to be with him if he didn't have a girlfriend and I'm just a hurdle in the process... so then today she tells me how excited joe is for her to start coming back to his office because she would be eye candy for him... what? Really? Who relays this stuff to their SO?
Then tonight she gets off work and is txting me and mentions that joe had just called her "just to say hi", mind you this is at 930pm... I'm seriously feeling sick to my stomach thinking I'm going to lose her to him or even worse, something will be done behind my back...
A little history on her, she broke off an engagement over a year ago with a guy that she very early on (first week of being official) cheated on, they got engaged within 3-4 months of dating anyway and were for awhile until she broke it off with him because she said she wasn't herself anymore, which is a fine reason to me to end it... he convinced her to try things again but then I guess she left him again because he was being insecure and jealous... this leads me to my situation, I am afraid that I am reading too much into this, should I trust that she is going to keep boundaries with this guy? Do I mention how I feel about the situation? And if so how? I am seriously falling in love or already am with this girl... I recently told her how strongly I felt for her short of telling her that I love her and she told me she is still afraid to fall in love due to her engagement...
Advice please... I'm really nervous, I've never felt insecure in a relationship and I don't want to be that guy, I'm almost to the point of breaking things off now because I've got this gut feeling I'm going to get hurt by her...