Hello,
I am a teenager, and a full time university student. I am not a maid, because I work part time as well, however, I do keep our home clean.
They have a baby together, however, she does not live with us. This is because she has other children and he doesn't like noisy homes (her children=noisy and undisciplined).
She is constantly over at our home, and although I am used to her and I do not mind her presence, she ALWAYS makes a mess somewhere (usually in the kitchen) and I find myself coming home or downstairs to a mountain of dirty dishes and food lying around.
This one time, the baby spiled soup and they did not even clean it. I came home to spilt soup on a chair, and a few vegetables lying there too. Excuse me, but what the ? I would mentioned other incidents, but I am trying to keep this short!
Its disgusting, and I cannot stand it anymore. This has been going on for so long, and she doesn't seem to have the courtesy to clean up her own mess. My father is too old fashioned to do any cleaning at home, and that just leaves me.
I used to clean it before because I didn't think it was a big deal, but I'm just getting annoyed at this point. I've tried speaking with him, to speak to her, (I wouldn't put her in an uncomfortable position by speaking with her directly, because I'm not RUDE).
We only get into arguments over it, and he insults me and yells at me over it, like its not a big deal.
Recently, I caught her trying to leave without cleaning up after her mess, and I politely asked her to help me clean it. The looked at me like there were 2 plates there and I was just crazy for asking, but she helped anyway.
I don't want to have to ask her every time because I don't like to degrade myself by doing so. If I ignore the mess in hopes that someone else will do it, I'll get yelled at by my father to clean it and insulted over it as well.
SORRY FOR THE LONG READ!! Any advice is appreciated!
I do not appreciate getting responses on anything other than to what i am asking.
