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  • Jan 12, 2009, 08:37 PM
    andrews_girl123
    Should I make the first move?
    My boyfriend andrew is super shy when it comes to errrr ummmm dating... im his first girlfriend (we're only 13) and I have had a lot of boyfriends so I kind of know what to do... but I've never had to make the first move.im going to the movies with him and like 6 other people we are going to see a horror movie I don't know if I should make the first move or not :confused:
  • Jan 12, 2009, 08:54 PM
    Nestorian

    Play sweet and innocent, then when a scarry part comes on, just grab his leg or arm, watch the "Male zone". It doesn't feel good to get bagged any time.

    If you grab him try more so for the chest/side and kind of hold his shirt. No need to play it so much as to put your head into him, but feel free to lean in. That way he naturally has to put his arm around you , if he is comfortalbe, if not. Just hold his shirt.

    Try to make it natural, like you're not thinking about it. But you are. Have fun with it. ;)

    That is only a suggestion, by all means do what you feel is best. Have fun.
  • Jan 28, 2009, 08:34 PM
    Aphrodite77
    Hell yeah you should make a move... it's fun.. especially on some innocent guys.. however... your still pretty young.. don't let your experiences get too far... :)
  • Jan 28, 2009, 09:16 PM
    MzRene

    YOU ARE 13!! Being that I have a niece close to your age I am saying this as a aunt. YOU ARE TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO YOUNG TO BE THINKING ABOUT A MOVE... LET ALONE MAKING THE FIRST ONE!! Just take your time, don't worry about making moves. Making moves will not even be special if you rush into them.
  • Jan 28, 2009, 09:36 PM
    ISneezeFunny

    ... what kind of a move are we talking about here?

    Being 13, aren't you a bit too young to have a boyfriend, or is it just me?
  • Jan 29, 2009, 12:56 PM
    liz28
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny View Post
    ...what kind of a move are we talking about here?

    being 13, aren't you a bit too young to have a boyfriend, or is it just me?

    No your aren't! Also, she stated this isn't her first boyfriend, she had others and never had to make the first move.

    Boy, I going to have to keep a tight leash on my daughter. She's only eight and already had boys asked her to be her girlfriend. But she tells them what me and he father tell her to tell them whick is "no, I can't date until I am 16 but you can be my friend".
  • Jan 29, 2009, 01:48 PM
    kctiger
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny View Post
    ...what kind of a move are we talking about here?

    being 13, aren't you a bit too young to have a boyfriend, or is it just me?

    This was exactly my question. What do you mean by the "first move?" If you could elaborate on that, I perhaps could give you my opinion. I am hoping you mean, "Should I be the one to hold his hand..." and not what I think you may be talking about. 13... boy, I feel really sorry for my daughter (if I have one)...
  • Jan 29, 2009, 07:54 PM
    ISneezeFunny
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by liz28 View Post
    No your aren't! Also, she stated this isn't her first boyfriend, she had others and never had to make the first move.

    Boy, I gonna have to keep a tight leash on my daughter. She's only eight and already had boys asked her to be her girlfriend. But she tells them what me and he father tell her to tell them whick is "no, I can't date until I am 16 but you can be my friend".


    Liz, you just said that she isn't too young... and then you said that your daughter can date when she's 16..
  • Jan 29, 2009, 08:42 PM
    liz28

    I reread what I wrote three times and I didn't see anywhere that I wrote she isn't too young but I did write that my daughter can date when she's 16. However when that time comes all her dates will be supervise.
  • Jan 29, 2009, 08:52 PM
    ISneezeFunny

    Oh, I apologize, I must have read wrong. When I quoted, "Aren't you a bit too young to..." you responded, "No your aren't!"
  • Jan 29, 2009, 09:15 PM
    liz28

    Oh, I guess I should've been a littler clearer. My "no you aren't" response what to your "being 13, aren't you a bit too young to have a boyfriend, or is it just me?

    Sorry for the confusion.
  • Jan 29, 2009, 09:44 PM
    talaniman

    I am still curious about that first move thing.
  • Jan 30, 2009, 01:30 AM
    JasmineLin83

    I don't want to be rude,but don't you think you are too young to think about a move and having a relationship?
  • Jan 30, 2009, 02:19 PM
    chrissymarie

    No don't make the first move. Your going to come off to him as easy. Your only 13. Slow down. And calm down with the bfs... no one wants to have sloppy seconds or thirds or fourths or etc etc.

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