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  • Jan 11, 2009, 09:45 PM
    youngmontague
    Stuck on someone else
    Hey I'm a sixteen year old guy and I currently have a girlfriend and we are in a good relationship even thought she is two years younger than me. I also have an ex-girlfriend that is hanging out with me more and I still like her and she is 3 years younger than me.(don't judge she is cool) anyway I have had feelings for her all along and when we broke up it wasn't because we didn't like each other it was because her parents did not approve. So I still have feelings for her and I am wondering what I should do because I'm enjoying this relationship but I want one with my ex.

    Sincerely Stuck
  • Jan 11, 2009, 11:51 PM
    babyshooter11

    Well you have lots of decisions to make and nobody can really make them for you. One decision that you have to decide is if you want to go against what your parents have to say and go for you're ex anyway or listen to them and stick to your current girl friend. Another decision that you have to make is if you do decide to stick to your current girl friend then how are you going to get your ex girl friend off your mind. Are you going to stop talking to your ex and focus on your current or not? Nobody can really tell what's right or not in this situation. You just have to decide on your own
  • Jan 12, 2009, 01:45 AM
    Clough

    Hi, youngmontague!

    You're sixteen. Most likely, you're going to find a lot of different girls that you'll be interested in during the next several years as you grow and mature as well as find and develop other things in which you're interested.

    So, if I were you, I would leave your options open and date or hang out with a number of different girls for awhile. It might be that you'll find one who is a really good match with whom you can go steady. A good age to start doing that would be in the 17 to 18 year range, if in high school.

    If parents don't approve of something, then it's best not to "rock the boat", so to speak. Doing so will most likely lead to problems. If truly interested in the person where the parents don't approve, then best to wait and not be in a hurry.

    When I was dating, I dated a number of different girls. They also dated a number of different guys. It was okay.

    Just some thoughts for you...

    Thanks!
  • Jan 13, 2009, 10:35 AM
    liz28

    Your sixteen years old so be careful dating girls 2 or 3 years younger than you because it might land you in some legal problems. Also, just to add if I was their mother they wouldn't be dating you.

    Anyway, to your question, if your stuck on your ex girlfriend than you shouldn't be with no one because it's isn't fair to the person your with unless you was upfront about this with that person. How do you expect to move on if your still "stuck" on someone?

    You need to let go and I am sure your ex parents haven't changed their view about the two you so leave her alone and let go and have no contact with her. I think you should leave your current girlfriend alone too and use the time to get over your ex and maybe find someone your age. That's just me because maybe if you thought about the legal things that could happen to you that would help you get over her quick.

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