Me and my boyfriend are always fighting, I am always jealous when he talks to other girls and when he has a girls number or anything I go nuts. Why would this be? I'm really over-protective with him. And when I'm on the phone I get paranoid, aven when he is in town on the phone and a woman walks past I accuse him of stuff... Why would this be. I have really strong feelings for him and I really want to stop all this. I feel as if I really don't trust him, people are saying if there is no trust then there is no love. But I feel as though I am in love.:eek:... Any adviice?

You sound like a very insecure person who is not ready to be in a relationship with anybody at this time.
Has he done anything to make you not trust him?
A bit of counseling may help you with some of these issues.

You may need some help with your own personal issues, as they will ruin your happiness.

Yeah. He Cheated on me once but that was just a silly mistake I know he loves me deep down. Even when e buys me stuff I say... "are you sure thats not for her" and he's like.. "who's her.?.its for you" then I just throw it all back in his face...

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Originally Posted by Vinlay

Yeah. He Cheated on me once but that was just a silly mistake i know he loves me deep down. Even when e buys me stuff i say... "are you sure thats not for her" and hes like.. "who's her.?.its for you" then i just throw it all back in his face....

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A silly mistake? Wow, that is one way to look at it. So, you are content with being in a relationship like this? Always looking behing your back? You are doing this for a reason, he cheated, and now you cannot trust him, or you won't, either way, it seems as though the foundation for this relationship has been ruined.

No trust, no relationship, period.

Tip: men tend to like confident women!. they like women that are sure of themselves... you don't have to be a barbie to be confident of yourself... like who you are and yourself confidence will help you not to feel that way. There's no sense in being jealous, it gets you no where but mad and anxious...

I don't ever consider cheating a "silly mistake" if I call it anything I call it my curtain call, because I am out the door. There is no excuse for cheating, ever. To me cheating is disrespectful to the one you "love" and want to be with. I could go on for miles about how it's a deal breaker, but you want advice on how to trust.

You have to forgive and forget the past, communication about how you feel and how you can convey your thoughts and feelings without seeming that you are attacking him. Once you have a good line of communication then it should fall all into place.

Had to spread the rep Rome, but I hear you.

Silly Mistake: Leaving the toilet seat down (Depending on the mood of the female, could escalate to a monumental screw up)

Monumental Screw Up: Forgetting the anniversary

Absolute Deal Breaker: Cheating

You may THINK leaving the seat up is a silly mistake but trust me, when a female(cough cough my fiancé cough cough) is in a bad mood, it's like the freakin world depends on the fate of that single toilet seat being left down!

This is also a very bad time to be thinking about having a baby.

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Yeah. He Cheated on me once but that was just a silly mistake i know he loves me deep down. Even when e buys me stuff i say... "are you sure that's not for her" and hes like.. "who's her.?.its for you" then i just throw it all back in his face....

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Listen very carefully.
"you are a 15 soon to be 16 year old who is with a 19 year old who has cheated on you and convinced you that cheating is a silly mistake. You are young and insecure and this guy is not going to change and you will not get any stronger as long as you are with him.
Leave him alone and grow up. Get a bit of counseling and if you must date, do it with someone closer to your age. And PLEASE do not get pregnant. If you are lonely and want something to care for and care for you, get a cat or a dog. I wish you well"

CurlyBen caught it and posted this thread on the other thread -

I'm simply the messenger.

If you read her other thread it's difficult to tell if she's 15, turning 16 in September, or if she turned 16 LAST September.

Well 15, 16 she is still too young and too confused. She needs to leave the guy along and grow up.
Thank you for the correction

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Well 15, 16 she is still too young and too confused. She needs to leave the guy along and grow up.
Thank you for the correction

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It wasn't a correction, just a note - you can't tell from her post how old she is. It becomes important on the other thread which is a legal question about the age of consent.

And, yes, she's too young and too troubled to have a child (in Ireland or any other place).

In relation to this post, which is what she wants advice on, I would say to not take the cheating lightly but I would also give him the benefit of the doubt. Remember that men are human. You may be walking down the street with him and his eyes might seem to be following a girl walking in the other direction. That is natural but from what you are trying to say is that you love him. He may well find other girls attractive but if you love him and he truly loves you then you should be happy and confident because very few teenagers can prove that they are in love. The love they often experience is mainly lust mixed with a touch of salt and a spoon of desire. This normally ends up in them cheating on each other when they get bored of their possession. Make sure you are who you are and don't be moulded by people around you but take advice as advice not as something that will definantly get you out of the problem your in. I hope you get more posts and I wish you the best.