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  • Jan 10, 2009, 03:28 PM
    13517
    I thought she was the one
    I met a girl six years ago. She was married and I was married. I thought we fell in love. We were friends and lovers, passionate attentive and caring. She left her husband, I left my wife. She decided we should have a baby, I didn't agree because of my family history, but we did anyway. My son is beautiful, 2 years old, smart, and difficult, but even more difficult is the woman I fell for. She is secretive, lies, hides her phone, comes home late everyday from work, and now refuses to say she loves me. Am I reliving what I put her former husband through? I am so attached to her that I am weak. I need someone to slap me in the face and say "grow up". What do you think?
  • Jan 10, 2009, 03:38 PM
    411Help

    Realize this.

    What makes you think she won't cheat on you like she cheated on her ex husband?

    Karma works in mysterious ways doesn't it?
  • Jan 10, 2009, 03:45 PM
    a la king

    GROW UP!! There I told.

    Karma is much more logical than mystical.
  • Jan 10, 2009, 03:48 PM
    wolfgangqpublic

    People show you the people they are, usually early on.

    She did.
  • Jan 10, 2009, 04:57 PM
    zeeniee

    What comes around, goes around...
    Now you must wake up and start sorting this mess out as you have a son to think about!
  • Jan 10, 2009, 05:09 PM
    Alty

    I have to agree with everyone else. She cheated with you and now she's cheating on you, a leopard doesn't change it's spots. You knew who she was when you got together with her, she's a cheater, as are you, now you get to suffer through the hell her ex-husband went through. Karma gets you every time.
  • Jan 10, 2009, 05:14 PM
    411Help

    OK, now that you know you've done wrong. Let's look at how you can mend the situation and move on to become a better person from all this ruckus.

    A. Leave her alone.

    B. Leave her alone.

    C. Leave her alone

    Are you starting to get what I'm saying? Don't ever speak to her, meet with her, check up on her. Anything to do with her is a NO-NO. She cheated on her ex husband, now she's cheating on you. You need to realize that this woman is not going to change and that she's no good. No, I'm not saying it's going to be easy, because, quite frankly, it's not. Especially since you two have a son together. Although, I understand you two may have to peacefully coexist because of this reason, try to avoid her as much as possible. Don't be sexually intimate with her, don't end up in long conversations with her, don't be her friend. If you want to heal and move on, you need to do these things.

    Also, you need to realize that you've done wrong. You need to realize that from now on you will avoid those who are already committed to someone. Cheating is a horrible thing. Like I said, karma works in mysterious ways.
  • Jan 10, 2009, 06:22 PM
    Romefalls19

    Just because you led a pig away from the mud pit doesn't mean it won't play in it first chance it gets.


    Hopefully you guys get my little hick saying
  • Jan 10, 2009, 06:38 PM
    ja77

    I have to agree with the other postings above.

    You two started your relationship off on the wrong foot - both of you where cheats -

    You knew that this women had another side to her when you both got together, because when she was married she would have been --

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    secretive, lies, hides her phone, comes home late everyday from work, and now refuses to say she loves me.
  • Jan 11, 2009, 10:47 AM
    talaniman

    You're a zip darn fool for going along with the plans and wishes of a cheater.

    You got exactly what you deserve, but did the child? That's the real loser here!
  • Jan 20, 2009, 08:36 AM
    secret_123

    Karma's a !

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