Moving with kids after divorce
I have 3 small kids ,9 , 7 , and 6. I was married to an abusive alcoholic nightmare for 9 years. We finally got out last year and I filed for divorce ( still being harassed by the ex today) I have full custody, and I dropped the request for supervised visits and gave him every other weekend visitation rights based on a few conditions, No alcohol around the kids , and his live in girlfriend coudnt spend the night when the kids are there .I agreed to the same ( although I don't have a live in) He has broken BOTH conditions, numerous times. He curses at them constantly, and puts them in a very dysfunctional environment when they are with him. ( shacked up with giflfriend, alcohol, police being called , fighting etc)
Child support is only 324.00 per month which is only 1/3 of what its supposed to be and is temporary he still doesn't have a job. He was only employed for about 4 of the 9 years we were married.His family has been helping him pay the child support.
The kids and I are living with my parents and I am trying to save money to move out. I want to move out of state, I live in a VERY remote area and it is going to be challenging to raise 3 kids alone anywhere, but here its all the more challenging because I live in such a small town, and can't make the amount of money I need to support 3 kids.
I want to move out of state, I have been spending a lot of time in a state about 1200 miles away from here and I want to move there and start a new life with my kids. I do not want to take them away from their dad, and would be willing to give up child support , or at least reduce it in order to finance his trips for visitation. I would also be willing to fly down with the kids and let them stay with him during the summer for a few weeks and holidays etc. They love their dad and he is good to them as long as he is not drunk.
All the divorce papers say is that I have custody and he has visitation, and that both parties must comply with uniform chancery court rule 8.06 regarding notifying courts and other party of new address. So do I have to tell the court that I intend on moving? Do I still need permission? It is in the children's best interest to not be around their dad all the time , I do not want them improperly influenced by his actions and the way he lives his life. I would like to get some sort of visitation schedule in place before I move , I do not want the kids to go more than a few weeks without seeing their dad. Do we have to involve the courts at all? I have talked to my ex and let him know what I was thinking . One day he says " fine , jsut as long as Ican see them " the next day he says " go ahead and move but youre not taking the kids" he is just trying to give me a hard time .
Child support and voilations of divorce decree
I filed for divorce last yr and ended up settling in October 08. I got custody, he has visitation rights every other weekend, and there is a temp order for child support in the amount of 324.09. Its temp because he is on Workers comp and hasn't worked in a year, even then he was only on the job for 3 weeks. Anyhow , the payments ( if he was working ) should be $1192.00 per month ( huge difference) , he is trying to stay on workers comp as long as he can to keep from working and paying the extra money, meanwhile my kids are suffering. First question: Anyway I can increase the payments to what they would be , being that he is not back on the job yet? And what would I have to go through to prove that he is not really hurt as bad as he says... He deer hunts , drinks beer , and rides 4 wheelers , among many other things, but he can't work because he's " hurt"
Also , the divorce papers say that there is to be no alcohol, or overnight visits with someone he is not married to , and that he is supposed to get and maintain life insurance in the amount of 100,000 on himself for the kids, and also maintain medical insurance for the kids, he has done NONE of this. What can I do about that? We were divorced in October, he has had ample time to get all theis done.