I'm not sure if my husband is bisexual.
My husband’s work schedule changed about 6 months ago, at which time he began working 2 jobs, only coming home for about 45 minutes in the morning to shower, change and go to his next job. There are times however when he doesn’t work for 4 - 5 days in a row, which is supposed to be our time together.
However, I have noticed that since he took on the second job our sex life is practically non existent. He admits to masturbating at work, which I believe is happening daily. I believe he is doing it in the morning before he comes home, and I believe this causes him to not want sex as he is already satisfied. I guess I am simply baffled how a man could or would prefer his hand over a “real” woman.
My husband and I were talking recently about a guy I went to high school with who was forced to commit a homosexual act with another male in front of several people. After hearing this story my husband let it slip that when he was younger he also had sex with men, however, he stated he only did this until he realized that he could be doing it with women instead.
Now, after hearing this, things that have happened over the past 10 years are beginning to make sense.
We found a box of unmarked VCR tapes in our storage, which belonged to my brother. I took a couple of the tapes home so we could figure out what was on them. When I put one of the tapes in the VCR, I had no idea it was male on male gay porn. I was actually horrified by the tape however when I turned around to see my husband’s reaction he was aroused and sitting there with an erection. I didn‘t think a “real” man would watch gay porn… let alone get aroused by it.
I am extremely unsatisfied with our sex life lately. My husband has never had any stamina in the bedroom. He says it is because I am tiny down there and that he just gets aroused quickly. He does love fondling my breasts and always compliments me on my looks and my body. I have had other men tell me I am a 9 out of 10. I am wondering what my husband’s problem could be then.
I didn’t think it was normal for a supposed straight man to be aroused by male gay porn. However, I have heard that it is normal for young people to experiment with people of the same sex. What about the fact that he would now rather masturbate than have sex with his own wife?
Does anyone know if this is normal behavior for a supposed straight man, or is there the possibility that my husband is bisexual? I am concerned as 95% of the people he works with are men.
If he is bisexual, I don’t see the point in living a lie or allowing him to use me as a cover. If he just prefers to masturbate, then I don't see the point in staying with such a selfish lover.
Any advice would be appreciated.