ok well i had this guy who was my boyfriend..he was the one you might say!! anyways after i meet his family..his mom, dad, grandmother, and brother i felt like everything was perfect! we were together for 2 months and for christmas he gave me a beautifl silver ring with 4 diamonds !! i felt like everything was falling right into place..but after 2 weeks i get a text message..funny i know...saying he doesnt want a relationship right now.! what kind of b ull is that? he tells me he loves me and feeds me all these lines and drops me like nothing.! now i really want him back but i dont think he wants thesame...what do i do ..im really heart broken?? THANKS.:)

Try to move on. There's nothing you can do anymore, the relationship is already over. Stay strong and, if you still want to pursue a relationship with him (if and only if he wants to as well), just be wary. Try reading the stickies on this forum.

Too much, to fast, crash and burn. You guys squeezed so much into sixty days, there was nothing left.

The lesson to learn is have fun getting to know each other, and take your time about it. A couple of months is not nearly time enough to know someone.

Having said that its time to let it go and move on with what you were doing before he came along.

Sorry for your loss, but life goes on, and gets better, if you live it.

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Originally Posted by bayee_girl1618

ok well i had this guy who was my boyfriend..he was the one you might say!! anyways after i meet his family..his mom, dad, grandmother, and brother i felt like everything was perfect! we were together for 2 months and for christmas he gave me a beautifl silver ring with 4 diamonds !! i felt like everything was falling right into place..but after 2 weeks i get a text message..funny i know...saying he doesnt want a relationship right now.! what kind of b ull is that? he tells me he loves me and feeds me all these lines and drops me like nothing.! now i really want him back but i dont think he wants thesame...what do i do ..im really heart broken?? THANKS.:)

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I can understand why you're heart broken. It happens to the best of us. I've been heart broken a few time myself. What I honestly think is maybe he's not ready for a big relationship and he's scared.

I should just get this sticky this but this is the easiest way to move on without causing any damage or do anything you'll regret.

Step one
Do not contact

Delete all contact info. You don't need it
Delete his telephone number.
Delete his email
Delete his aim

Do not stalk his gym or coffee shop or try to "casually run into him." And don't contact him for a few months. You're not going to be yourself right now around him and the best thing for you is space

Step two

Detox time

For now...

Get rid of all gifts, pictures, or anything that will bring up a memory of him right now (including computer/cell phone wallpaper of him).

You can put them in a box in the corner and just don't go to that box for a few months

Step three

Don't be friends

Neither of you are ready. He just hurt you and you need space from him. When you have no thoughts of the relationship and you're over him. Then you can be friends.

Step four

Alcohol isn't your friend.

1 or 2 social drinks with friends is fine. But drowning your sorrows doesn't work. They don't drown. You just have a huge hangover and it solved nothing.

Step five

Hang out with the your friends

Your friends are there for you and plenty of people have been there. They'll support you and sometimes it help to talk to people. This forum count as friends.

Step six

Keep going

If you get up and have a morning jog... keep doing it. Don't have a pity party for one. Those are the worst parties and the least fun. Moping doesn't really do anything.

Step seven

Get back on the horse

Yea you got dumped and it hurt but it didn't kill you... try again. Mr. Right may be just around the corner. Maybe try flirting with the guys at first and after a while when you are more over him the record high jump at the olympics... Then maybe try dating (online... speed dating... blind dates... Friends who have hot single friends that be perfect for you... there are lots of possibilities)