All right guys. The last time I came here to seek advice has helped me out a lot so I'm hoping you can help me once again this time. This is my first relationship so far and my girlfriend has had a couple in the past. We were with each other for 9 months and things started getting a little bad towards the middle and end of December. She has had a pretty bad past of how her boyfriends have mistreated her. Rape and another one of her ex verbally abusing her.

During the beginning of our relationship, she has told me she has a heart problem called angina. So at that time, I was worried about her. I looked up everything about it and tried to read about it. And when it was December, she told me she was going to move to Wyoming where here best friend and godmother lives at. The reason behind this is she told me she can't afford the medicine and treatment she gets. She has stopped taking her medicine due to this. And the thing is she hasn't told her parents about this. Before, her best friend was the one paying mostly for this. But she has moved to Wyoming already. She says it would be too much of a burden for her parents since their in debt and she doesn't want them to go through the pain of it again.(Her uncle had the same thing and died at a pretty young age.) I tried to work things out with her but it just wasn't working. She told me she wanted to break up because she didn't want to drag it on and end up hurting me when she leaves. I asked her if we could deal with long distance for a bit and she said no. I can probably understand that because before she had a long distance relationship for 1 and a half years and that was the one where she was verbally abused. She told me she doesn't want to to through long distance again. I tried everything and things didn't work out in the end. But after a while, she wanted to get back with me. She said she misses me. So we did get back together. But that didn't last very long... She told me she had made a mistake. And that she should have kept the way things were before. (When we weren't with each other.) But then I found out she was talking to her ex again... Every night when we would talk on the phone, she would pretend to fall asleep and talk to him on the phone. She denied this. And when I came over to visit her one day, I found a whole bunch of messages of him and her talking. The kind of messages where you would say to each other as if you were dating. She denied this also. But then I got the truth out of her.

Sorry guys but I can't explain almost everything right now since I have school so I'll get down to my current worries.

I still have been in contact with her since we go to the same school but now I'm thinking of cutting off contact with her. I know this is wrong but I went on her e-mail one day... I don't why but I kind of just did. And when I got on it, there was these pictures of her ex half-naked. And then... there was one of penis... I'm like is this.. I found out about this 2 days ago. And this is where I am now...

Regardless of her health issues, strictly from a relationship standing, she has broken your trust. You cannot live life constantly looking behind your back, so I would say end this. Neither of you seem like you care enough about each other to make this work long term, and both of you have more important things to focus your attention to.

Leave her, and focus on school. No trust, no relationship, period. Good luck.

Its been time to let her go for a long time, so do so now.

What should I do if she tries to come back? I still do want to be with her...

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You couldn't handle her past before now all of a sudden you can? I don't think so, and you really need to stop the contact, and give yourself time to get your own head together. Nothing has really changed except you miss what you had, but couldn't handle it, when you had it.

If, and that's a big if, she comes back you will just start the same mess again, and it will have the same results, after all, you haven't changed, and have even more stress by still following behind her, and not letting your wounds heal. Let go, and leave it gone.

I could always of had accept her past. I was just mad at the guys who treated her that way. Yes I know I was being stupid. :\ Sorry if I made anyone misunderstood it that way. >.< But if we do get back together, do you think we can work things out?

My girlfriend moved out without warning and wouldn't tell me where. Now I found out she's living with a 30 year old guy separated with a kid. They text 100s of times a day but I have no proof she's actually cheating. She has no family here so I don't know.

Here's my point to you. If a girl's acting suspicious and you find out odd things, something is up. She doesn't want to hurt you. She is trying to soften the blow and end without making herself feel too guilty.

You NEED to do NO CONTACT. None. Do not worry about her health or her past. I just found out she lied about her past. If this girl can't be honest with you, she won't let any of her real close secrets go.

Do you feel like crap? Why do you want to be with someone who makes you feel this way? She's going to leave again sometime down the road.

Do no contact and if she comes back and SHOWS she is truly sorry and that she loves you, then start over if you can.

People can "change" and learn new things. But relationships are cycles and the same problems are likely to reoccur over and over for us to learn from them.

Go out for yourself man and let her have fun with her ex. Don't fool yourself. You can't force her to come to you so time to move on