The first time I had sex it did not hurt at all. The first month or so we used condoms. Now I'm on depo provera. Now when we have sex I'm really tight and its hard for him to get in. he has to push really hard to the point where it hurts him and me. Its like I'm closed. If he kisses my neck for a little while I will start to open up. Even if I'm really "turned on" its too tight until he starts on my neck. I don't understand and its not that fun when we are trying to have sex. My gyno said it could be something involving the birth control I really forgot what she said. And she told me to try lubricant. But my boyfriend doesn't want anything on him down there. I don't know what to do. Once he gets in, I'm fine, it doesn't hurt anymore. Its just that part that really hurts.

Maybe you need a lot more foreplay than you thought.

Sometimes it takes women a long time to open up to men, (pun intended). Just relax, don't worry about it and concentrate on the sensations of his hands on your body.. maybe that will help

Thank you. Ill try that next time.

Try a lubricant it may help

Maybe some kengel exercise will help

My boyfriend doesn't want to try a lubricant. He said putting stuff on him down there makes him very uncomfortable. He said that he didn't mind the challenge because it was kind of like a build up. But sometimes it can be frustrating.