Ask Me Help Desk - Long Distance Dilemma

About a month ago my friends and I invited this girl from our summer class to go bowling. She brought some of her friends and I met one of them and her name is Lizz. Afterwards my friend told me that Lizz thought I was cute and I thought the same about her. So, I exchanged numbers with her and we started to talk. We wanted to hang out but I was on vacation for 2 weeks. Over the course of those 2 weeks we talked every day and seemed to get along very well. We both started to like each other. The day after I got back from vacation we hung out and hit it off immediately, we were together 14 straight hours and had sooo much fun. We wanted to start dating but the only problem is that the next day she was leaving to go back to college for the Spring semester and her school is a 6 hour drive from mine. We aren't officially a couple but we want to be but can't because of the distance. We plan on seeing each other every couple weeks if we can. We talk everyday and flirt a lot and whole the nine yards; typical things couples do. I have never been in a long distance relationship before so I'm not really sure how to approach this situation... should I still consider myself single? Is it OK to see other girls? How do I approach it?

I dated my husband long distance through out the entire courtship. Anything is possible as long as you are willing and honest with each other. Our comute was only 3 hours and we saw each other every weekend. It is not ideal, nor do I recommend it, but it is entirely possible. Good luck!

Right now the two of you are getting to know each other. Your're single until the two of you agree to become serious however you've an interest in this girl.

Long distance relationships have it challenges. I was in one. There going be times where your going get upset because your unable to her when you want to. You might even get a little lonely at times but some of these relationship do survive and in the end it only makes the relationship stronger. Trust is going be tested but if you are able to trust her then again the relationship can survive.

But some people can't deal with the limited numbers of time you see your partner when your in a long distance relationship. However you deal with it and cherish the time you spend together.

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Originally Posted by liz28

Right now the two of you are getting to know eachother. Your're single until the two of you agree to become serious however you've an interest in this girl.

Long distance relationships have it challenges. I was in one. There going be times where your going get upset because your unable to her when you want to. You might even get a little lonely at times but some of these relationship do survive and in the end it only makes the relationship stronger. Trust is going be tested but if you are able to trust her then again the relationship can survive.

But some people can't deal with the limited numbers of time you see your partner when your in a long distance relationship. However you deal with it and cherish the time you spend together.

Ya technically I still am single so then would that make it all right to see other girls? The only problem with that is that if lizz found out I think it would hurt her. I know it would kind of bother me if I found her she was going out with other guys.

I hate to say it, but it really is one of the most difficult things to do.
I've been there, but with far more distance between us. 6 hours is still
Quite a distance. I went out with my girl for 1.5 years before she left for the Peace Corps.
I loved her, but had to let her go. I visited her 2 times, she visited me and it was as if we were never apart. We kept in close contact. Wrote letters, phone, email, skype, everything we could do to keep each other up on our daily lives and it still didn't work.
2 months before she was to come home to be with me she fell in love with another volunteer. I had no idea...
So, long story short. Yes, it's entirely possible to maintain things, but having expectations of other people while they are so far away is not a good idea, if you want to keep your sanity. You'll always wonder what's going on and if they don't call or contact you it'll eat at you. Trust me, it totally sucks to put your life on hold, because you never know who they might meet or who might influence them. Definitely, stay single and keep it that way until you meet someone closer. If she moves closer to you, go for it! If not, just stay friends and keep your expectations very low.

Good luck bro.