I am a 35 year male and have been dating a women for 4 months. I am very much in love with her. We have talked about moving in with each other and going fuorward with our relationship but we haven't been able to have intercourse. The problem is that I hurt her to the point that she stops me due to my size. I am what I call abnormally large in that area and it is a problem in my love life. I rarely find a women that can handle the size and me be attractive to them or their personalities. I really want this to work with her but it is very frustrating and as much as this sounds CRAZY coming from a man I can only handle so much oral sex! I feel this is going to drive us apart and I do not want that to happen!! I have suggested seeing a doctor but we are not sure if there is anything they can do to help her... Any ideas?

Could it be that your girlfriend is having a hard time relaxing because of worrying about the size and the stress is causing her to remain tense? Have you tried insertion and just let it stay there to see if she can relax further before going further? Being thicker than normal, I understand your situation. My wife had bladder spasms for several months after we got married due to my size and that's after she had 2 children by her first husband. However, she learned to relax and her body adapted. That has been over 20 years ago and has never been a problem since. Patience and practice is my advice.

I would suggest you try arousing her before intercourse so that she can relax. Maybe give her oral and then if it's really big it may take some time but if she can have children then she can take it in eventually. She'll get used to it in time.

"abnormally large"? ok, the female vagina can stretch to have 10 pound babies, so it can stretch for a penis. I think maybe it's How you are doing it...

It is a matter of relaxation on the woman's part... the vagina will accept a very large penis.

Sounds like she has a lot of fear... that is a bad way to begin sexual intercourse.

Just insert your penis gradually and let it rest in her vagina... gradually move it a little bit, and rest. Repeat. When she loosens up, gradualluy move it a llittle more, rest and repeat.

Just remember, no antics like a porn star... most women don't like to get hammered... it hurts most women. :)

Good Luck!

Only 4 months is NOT nearly enough time to move in together. What you are is very much in LUST with her. HUGE difference there.

And incidentally most guys think they are far bigger than they really are. Mostly younger guys. Its not HUGE until you are into double digit measurements.

If a baby can pop out of the vagina, it will accommodate any man alive that knows what to really do with it. And its far more involved than insert, remove, repeat.