Am I being taken for granted?
Hi, I am new to the forum & desperately need some advice! I appologise for the long post
I've been married for 3 1/2 years, my problem started last year when I found out my hubby had gambled half our savings, I forgave him for that and decided to start afresh.. After just five months he made arrangements with his father & bought a bar in Italy (his country), before we got married we had an agreement that we would not live in Italy. To make a long story short we are now living in Italy, and I am desperately unhappy. We live right under his parents noses and they think I am not good enough for they son. They have said really hurtful things about me even before they met me and that just put me off them. I think even if they smile at me its just for show...
I have spoken to him about how I feel but he just brushes me off, he has told me that if I want to leave I should leave but he is not leaving as he has believes in what he is doing. He says he still loves me but he cannot leave, and by the way the bar is been open about seven month and is 250,000 euros in dept already and its making about 400 euros (bear in mind this is peak season). I honestly don't see a future with this business. I am going crazy as this does not seem like the man I married, I just don't know what to do... To make matters worse the so called "bar" doesn't even make enough money to pay the two bar staff & he works seven days a week (17hour shifts)
I feel I was (1). Forced into this situation and I had to give up my career, friends, family & independence. We never have money to do anything and he seems to think the world will end without this bar and that things will get better.
I am also frustrated with his family as they can't mind their business! I don't speak the language and I am just fed up with all of it.. We lived in London before, and since being here I've used up the little money I had saved up so it will not be easy for me to walk away without even money to pay for my ticket..
This is my second marriage, and therefore its another reason why I am here as I don't want to feel like I've failed this one as well.. my last marriage ended through no fault of my own (ex got someone pregnant). I know what I have to do deep down in side is leave, I am just so scared of starting over as I don't have any money and he definitely won't give me any, I also cannot work here as I don't speak the language..
What do you think, please be gentle