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  • Jan 5, 2009, 01:37 AM
    218
    Was leaving my fiancée a right or wrong decision?
    I got to know my fiancée at work, we didn't know each other that well but we used to chat once in a while. Until the day that he came & told me that he would like to propose to me, he wanted to bring his mother to my house & get introduced to my family.
    They came & I didn't like his mother cause she never paid any attention to me.. but things moved on & we got engaged after 1 month.
    We stayed engaged for 4 more months , during this period I started to feel that he cares a lot about money, it is his first priority. I would like to participate in many things like paying for restaurants sometimes or buying things & he would never say no. If he says no , he would tell: I'll buy you this now & you will invite me to dinner later.
    My family participated a lot in our house , they bought many things , & they expected him to appreciate this but he wouldn't think of thanking them until I tell him.
    The last thing that happened is that I asked for a credit card for my cell phone with 5 dollars & he took the money from me, he never said no. when I told him that this bothered me, he told me that I don't feel responsible of you now though our wedding was after 10 days.
    Things progressed & we broke up, he got married after 3 months to his cousin. I feel so betrayed. He refused to discuss things with me before break up.. what do you think?
    I still work with him, he is my boss.
  • Jan 5, 2009, 02:46 AM
    simoneaugie

    You're lucky he didn't marry you. Feeling betrayed, because he married his cousin? I would stay at your job while looking for another if possible. You deserve a man who will appreciate both you and your relationship with your family. You were spared marriage with this guy, be grateful.
  • Jan 5, 2009, 03:25 AM
    juhi2011

    I too feel that you are lucky enough that he did you both were not married. At least you can think of a new and a wonderful life ahead. If would have been married to him , definitely you must be suffering now. I have seen lots of cases like this. People who give importance to money that relationship end with nothing in hand... gud job done... CELEBRATE!! Rather than feeling betrayed dude..
  • Jan 5, 2009, 05:43 AM
    Fr_Chuck

    I would start also looking for a new job, you willl have a hard time getting over him, working there every day.
  • Jan 5, 2009, 07:52 AM
    talaniman

    You should celebrate that you didn't marry him, and get another job.
  • Jan 11, 2009, 12:14 AM
    218
    But you don't really think that it was a rapid decision from me on him? I just need to knoww if I did anything wrong? He is been very good with me at work.. & that what makes me wonder if he is really a good one?
  • Jan 11, 2009, 07:57 AM
    talaniman

    He may be a good boss, but is not a good partner for you. That you do know.
  • Jan 11, 2009, 08:50 AM
    wolfgangqpublic

    I'm assuming you are not from a "Western" country?
  • Jan 11, 2009, 02:06 PM
    218
    No am not from a western country.. how did u know?& what do u think about the story..
  • Jan 11, 2009, 03:17 PM
    sully123

    Forget him,and don't look back, he isn't worth your time. Go look for a new job, you did yourself a favor.

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