Hi,

I have been with my boyfriend now for approx 8 months, he is really special to me... but I find myself constantly being jealous. Himself and his ex girlfriend of 6 years are in the same circle of friends and evertime there is a get together etc she is there.. I just can't help but get extremely jealous when they talk to each other. I don't know does he be checking her out, but I think he does, partly because she is a model, how can I compete. He knows I am not 100% happy with the situatin, and does tell me he only wants to be with me.

That's not the only thing, he is a really funny guy and always cracking jokes. When we go out, I often find, I talk to his friends, and he talks to other girls all night. They are always laughing and joking. Now I don't thin he would cheat, I just think all these women fancy him, and tey may mistake his joking for flirting. I honestly don't see any difference between the way he talks to women now and when he was single. He has mentioned it to me that I have to get over it, just because he talks to other women doesn't mean anything and I know this myself, but I can't help but get really jealous and its got to the stage nw where I am making it really obvious and am embarrassed about it.

I really want to overcome this, as I feel it may ruin our relationship, and I really don't want to loose him.. Please help, I know this is my problem and I really don't want to be jealous. Any advice out there!

You need to honestly evaluate where you are justified in being jealous and where you are over reacting. Leave the over reacting alone and go with intuition rather than what you see, hear and feel on an emotional level.
Realize she is his ex, you are his girl, if you can't distinguish you may soon also be his ex... and won't you feel really stupid if he broke up with you and didn't even go back to his ex?