--Ok well, I have only only been with men , actully only one man to be exact. And not that I don't enjoy sex with him, but latley I have been having this desire to be with a women, I find everything about them atractive and just wonder what it would be like, is this normal to have this desire? Would it be wise to maybe take a test drive? Or should I just ignore it an do the same thing I have always done?

After you break up with your boyfriend, take a test drive.

Well if you're single and you want to. And it isn't against any moral/religious reasons you can think of... go ahead.

I consider myself straight and I still think women are beautiful. What's not to like about women, they're soft and curvy. I'm sure they know more about the body than most men do. I do think about it every once in a while but after some thought, I don't act on it. My opinion, men just aren't much to look at, but they possess what women don't.
If you want to, after you break off with your boyfriend, try it. But do give it some thought.
Maybe you won't even have to break it off with your boyfriend, maybe you should be honest and tell him about your thoughts, he might not mind watching if that doesn't make you uncomfortable.:D

LIfe is to be lived... just don't do anything while you are drinking. Be real. Being sober and making the moves on a woman you are attracted to will give you all the info when consummated you will need to see if you desire sex with a special woman.

Best wishes, :)

I am a gay woman who was married for 12 years.. 2 children.. I had wonderful sex with my husband.. that was never an issue.. I have been with my current partner for 8 years.. being Gay is more than physical attraction.. it is a way of living and being.. I suggest you try it out with someone willing to do the same.. and FYI.. if a few drinks help relax the two of you.. so much the better.. Happy Hunting

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I am a gay woman who was married for 12 years..2 children..I had wonderful sex with my husband..that was never an issue..I have been with my current partner for 8 years..being Gay is more than physical attraction..it is a way of living and being..I suggest you try it out with someone willing to do the same..and FYI..if a few drinks help relax the two of you..so much the better..Happy Hunting

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I absolutely do NOT condone using drugs or alcohol to have to "relax" or "get in the mood".

If you're not willing to do it SOBER, you shouldn't be doing it.

Totally agree, if you can't do something sober don't do it.

Oh.. Give me a break.. tell me that any one here has not went out to dinner.. had a few glasses of wine.. enjoyed their date.. and had great sex afterward.. I never said get wasted or drunk.. I glass of wine or two will just help take the pressure off. Get real people.. relax.. this is a human interaction.. and feeling less stressed can only help. But I agree.. don't shoot up or down a bottle of Vodka.. I was suggesting a single cocktail... Chill..

True, Don't do it unless you are sober. I would say act on it if you have the urges to. Then you can say you tried and if you like it then you found what you wanted, if not, at least you have the benefit of the doubt.

Oh.. and I just realized who responded to that.. a sex expert... well.. I think anything that helps with mood.. whether a glass of wine.. some porn.. or role playing is fine... and Christianity expert... say no more.. I went to Catholic school for 12 years.. the priests at my parish drank like fish... but thanks for the advice

And again.. I never suggested she not be sober... having a glass of wine does not make you unable to make decisions.. geeez.. people... my grandmother drank several glasses of brandy every night.. she was the wisest woman I ever spoke with... but.. I think we need to move to the addictions thread...

Yeah... I've gone on a date, and had a few drinks and had fun with my date afterwards.

But ONLY when I've been with that person for a while anyway. If you NEED alcohol to do it, you don't really want to do it, and are using false courage to do something you aren't comfortable with.

When I was single, and dating--I didn't even drink on early dates, because I didn't want alcohol to cloud my judgement. While I'm not preaching alcohol abstinence, I AM saying that you don't go to bed with someone, especially the first time, when you need a 'drink or two' to do it.

What makes you think she NEEDS alcohol.. we are off the subject.. I simply suggested a glass of wine or two to relax her.. get the conversation flowing.. etc. Of course.. don't get wasted... you won't remember it anyway.. Sorry I brought it up.. And maybe the person she would like to experience this with is someone she know... so a few drinks at dinner wouldn't be an off the wall thing... right?

I don't think Synnen was saying that she did NEED it, I think she was just saying in general, if you do need alcohol to do something, you shouldn't be doing it.

I do agree susananne.

I am the type that has fantasized about it for along time and I would appreciate the liquid encouragement, I don't think I would need to be drunk and I don't think the alcohol would make me regret what I had done, but if I intended it to be a one time test drive I would want it as hot as it comes and nothing is hotter than "tipsy" sex.

And I was saying maybe it is something she really wants to do.. and cannot relax enough to get past her stress level.. That's all I have on this subject... Thanks everyone.. it was a fun discussion... >>>>Moving on...

Just... Thank God... Thanks for the backup.. that is all I was saying too... TY

<<<Going to have a glass of wine... LOL... Thanks all..

Haha. Very well said. I know a couple of times it took a few drinks to give me the courage to take a step. I wanted to and I have been doing it since. So, it is a good idea. I guess I got caught up in the whole drug/alcohol thing earlier. Sorry