Hey there, broke up almost 11 months ago, about 3 months NC, she did breaking, but still OK terms. ANyhow its her birthday coming up and little unsure. Send text or do nothing, she's in relationship I think.. I just trying to be mature about it. Obviously still care about her, but don't want to give wrong message.. This isn't stem to open up communication with her, and I realize if she with someone else he can wish her happy birthday. But would prefer to be friends down the liine I think, maybe other people who have been through this can give some advice (especially women). We share friend circles and so would it seem that I am being a jerk on purpose or even make me look weaker, like I'm totally not over her (which is not true) if I don't give a short "Happy Bday"..
Thanks.

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Leave it alone, and don't make it a bigger deal than what it needs to be.

Get a friend to say it to her, and that you couldn't yourself as you were busy

Therefore you can't luck weak, but also come out looking nice :)

I wouldn't even worry about it. She's your ex. She doesn't expect you to tell her happy birthday

If you have had a birthday since you broke up and she wished you a happy birthday then you could do the same if you like. If not, then just forget about her, since she has forgotten about you.

In respect of the relation you guys had, a " happy bday" is welcomed. But nothing more.u don't want to find reasons or excuse yourself

I wouldn't send her anything. It will only stir up your emotions -whether she replies or not-- It's all about you now. You are not being selfish or a bad person by not wishing her anything, Just be cool, treat it as any other day, After a few days you'll get over it.

How long did your relationship last? If you've spent 2 years or more together, than send her a simple text, "Hope you Have a Great One". If it's been 5 or more, call to wish her a Happy Birthday, keep it simple, like the text, only by voice.
A year or less together, forget it.
If your birthday has come and gone without her acknowledgement than f**k that.

I would not say anything. I don't think she cares either. Like others have said, you are priority one now, and after three months of NC, it might just be more painful for you to re-open the lines of communication, especially if she doesn't reply. It serves no purpose for you to do this, no matter how much of a nice gesture you wish it to be.