I am 15 years old I live in wichita,Ks and I have now grown up to teenager years and I wouild like to speak out and be able to have a choice of who I want to live with.I would like to live with my mother because first she is my mother and second I have been with my father every since I was 6 and I am only aloud to visit my mother in Ohio and only on the holidays and only if my mother comes and gets me.I want to have a chance to be with my mother and share great memories and more and I can't do that only if I see her in the summer time.I love my father but I feel that I need this time with my mother.He has a wife and kid and her oldest daughter I want to be able to feel what they feel as to coming home and knowing mothers going to be home and they can run to their mother and kiss her good night and do things for here she will really appreciate and I just want to be able to do those things for my biological mother and that is all I really want and to be able to be with my little sister and my brother and family. But my father iskeeping me from closing the void in my heart.

First, lawely isn't a word - its legally. And legally there is nothing you can do as a minor. Your mother can petition the court for primary custody but if your father disagrees, the court would likely side with him because he has been the primary custodian for all these years.

My best suggestion would be to talk to your father and explain to him exactly why you feel that living with your mother would help you grow as a person and make sure your mother supports your plan.

Your mother can file for a physical custody/placement change and request that you be allowed to testify in front of the judge. Either the judge will let you speak, or s/he won't. And whether they allow you to testify, the judge will make the decision that s/he feels is in your best interest. Good luck with everything.

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Your mother can file for a physical custody/placement change and request that you be allowed to testify in front of the judge. Either the judge will let you speak, or s/he won't. And whether or not they allow you to testify, the judge will make the decision that s/he feels is in your best interest. Good luck with everything.

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I hate it when you take my good answer and post first!

Agree with all above, in most cases, when the children are old enough, the judge will listen to what they want, how they feel, whom they want to live with, etc. This is not difficult at all but your mom needs to take action.

For the father to have you, either the mother decided it was best or there was something in her life style of past that made the court decide your father was the best choice to raise you.

After that you have a family and most likely a step mother who loves you and is there for you, but it sounds like you are not accepting her as family, she is also family, as a step father, I was closer to my children than their own dad, and when their mother left me, my son stayed with me instead of going with his own mother.

You mother, does she call you every couple of nights? Does she come for a visit as often as possible ?

Sorry but if she wanted you, she can file in court to get custody of you,

You may be right where you need to be, with a loving family,

Have you discussed this with your father, perhaps some family counseling to help you feel more "fit" into your current family.