Hello everyone Im new here. Ive been debating what to do about the situation I'm in. Last summer I met this girl. Cute girl on the shyer side, real nice. I also knew her friend and her friend wanted us to go out. Her friend had explained to me that she had broke up badly with her boyfriend of about a year a month before. But her friend told me she was over him. I didn't think much of it. We started to talk and get to know each other. Things seemed to be going pretty good. About a month later her ex goes to her and says I want you back and all this BS. Then after that everything obviously went downhill. It pretty much ended with her saying O I can't choose between the two of you and I don't want to hurt anyone. Plus soccer is coming and Im going to be too busy for a boyfriend. Then like 3 days after they started going out. I was pretty pissed. We didn't talk for like a month. We only talked again when she apologized. So then we were friends again and eerything was all right again. A little while ago her and her bofriend broke up again. Here's where my question comes in. I don't know if I should try again or just forget it. Please give me your opinion.

Talaniman rule- Stay away from people who are still messing with their exes.

Talaniman rule-Never listen to a potential partners friends about their business, or whats on their mind

Talaniman rule- Don't be a rebound to someone who just broke up.

Pick one!

I like your rules lol. Unfortunately I wasn't completely filled in on the situation with her ex when I probably should have found out more before going further. And the friend thing I don't know what I would do about that because she's so shy and sometimes craps her pants over dumb stuff sometimes.

Even shy people are required to be honest in a relationship, so is she shy, or sneaky? Whatever she is, she has proved she does not disclose all the relevant facts, for you to make a reasonable decision.

Talaniman rule- Never trust some one you know doesn't deserve it.

Could it be possible she was confused and wasn't really straight on what the facts were? I should have looked into this more and maybe asked her about it or something. But hey we learn from our mistakes.

She wasn't confused, she knew exactly what the facts were. You were a rebound dude, plain and simple.

So then chances are that we will probably not be talking or anything again. Am I correct?

Tal your rules are dead on! Way too much drama, I'd much rather enjoy life then worry about what the girlfriend or whatever she is, is going to say

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Originally Posted by rg550

So then chances are that we will probably not be talking or anything again. Am I correct?

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Just my opinion, and its only food for thought, but since I have no clue about either of you, but can only go by what you have written, she has already made it clear she isn't over the ex, so you can only distract her so long until her feelings for him put you back on the curb. Seen it many times my friend.

She may need your emotional support, as she is hurt, and need to heal, but those types of relationships rarely work. (rebound )

Its like falling in love with your nurse while in a hospital, once you get well and go home the love for the nurse is put behind you. Your her nurse, and when she is healthy emotionally, she leaves and goes about her business.

Okay, now that you know, what are you going to do about it?? Thats whats important. The last thing you can expect is for her to feel the same way you do, or expect she ever will.

Ya I see what your saying. Im thinking it was either that or maybe she she thought she was truly over him. Now that I was in the picture maybe she didn't think much more of him and was moving on. But then when he came back she realized she wasn't as over him as she thought.

I agree with everyone else. She used you - weather she meant to or not. You say you're talking again. It's fine to be friends if you can handle it. But your relationship is over.