Really confused about my best Girl Friend. I'm heartbroken
I will start at beginning. Hopefully I won’t put you all to sleep. I had been going to a karaoke bar for awhile, with my boys. I am in my 40’s, and married.
This Girl, Cathy lost her husband. He was a police officer, he died very tragically. One night she really broke down, and all her friends were standing around, shaking their heads what to do. A few said, geez she should be over this by now. It had only been 3months since he died. I didn't know her but felt her pain, so I just sat there holding her hand, trying my best to console her. Someone else took her home, then the next fri on Karaoke night I saw her again, and we briefly talked, thanking me for coming to her rescue. As the weeks went by, we became closer. Then I started going over her house, almost daily. We just hit it off.
She didn’t want to be alone, and always invited me over, just to hang out. Then when I went home, we would talk for hours. You know typical girl stuff.
Her emotional health was going downhill fast, and I was always there for her. One night she called me at 2am, to say goodbye. I raced to her house 10 miles away, and there she was lying on the floor passed out with liquor & pills on the floor. I immediately called 911. They came took her away, and she spent 3 days in observation. When she was released, I picked her up.
At least 2 nights a week, I stayed with her, all night. Time spent away from my family. They knew Cathy needed me more. What a great family I have.
I would cook her meals, take care of her house, and take care of my own family too. She has no family here, so I was it.
She needed time away. So she went to New York for a few weeks, so I stayed at her house, taking care of her dogs. I did this more than once.
Anytime she needed me day or night I was there, only at her invitation.
We became so close people thought we were sisters. She told me more than once, how special I was to her, that she never had a friend like me.
Slowly she started dating again, and getting on her feet. Then one day it happened. No phone calls, no text. Hmmmm, I thought she is having a bad day, so I left her alone…then the days turned to weeks. I call her leave messages, I text her she ignores me. Now she has a new Best friend, wants nothing to do with me. This new best friend was always talking badly behind her back too….Huh?? What gives?
I have seen her a few times in the last 3 months, and she just gives me a weak hug, and see you, and that’s that.
My God, I feel like a part of my life was ripped away. I loved that woman, more than any other friend in my life. My Boys & my husband just think she is psycho. I feel used, and very heartbroken.
I think of her daily, can’t help it. My husband doesn’t get it, he has never had a really close friend like that.
Thank you so much for listening to me rambling, but my heart is broken ,and I am worn from taking care of her. It was probably the most difficult thing I’ve ever done for a friend.
Krissy